Have you ever gotten “spooked” out of dating someone even though things had been going really, really well? If so, what happened?

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1. Yea they broke my trust in early stages. If someone can’t be 100% faithful in the first year you’re pretty doomed

2. All she talked about was how her and her sister needed somewhere to stay. Eventually I cut ties and the last I had seen of her she had a kid and was still looking for a place to stay

3. Dated a a girl for a little bit in my late teens that had a picture perfect life, but turned out to be batshit insane. Started seeing a girl after that, that started going into her mental health issues after a few weeks, and I bounced. Not sure if it was the “right” thing to do, but after dealing with girl 1, I was pretty cautious.

4. Yes. Sometimes people show their hands early. Last one outright told “your boundaries are not nice to me”. Cool, bye.

5. Things weren’t going well it just looked like they were going well lol. I’d post details but reddit isn’t very accepting of the male side of relationships tbh. Happy wife, happy life doesn’t always work 100%.

6. On the first date it turned out she was really good friends with a couple where the guy was a total creep. I just didn’t want them in my social orbit at all.

7. Yeah, host of the party said the next day that she tried to accuse a guy of being inappropriate with her and he saw that no such thing happened and she was just high af and lying. She had practically forced me to give her my number with little effort from me and she was cute but those kinda allegations can ruin a man’s life and I’m not gonna risk that

8. She seemed too sexual. We went bowling and she routinely made sexual jokes. LOL.

9. Idk if this counts as things going really well, but in my last relationship we were doing decently well as far as aligning our future plans and the outward facing relationship stuff. But behind the scenes, we just seemed to clash over the smallest things, constantly. Every week or other week it was just one circular never ending argument after another.

   I got scared that if I continued the relationship I’d spend my foreseeable future locked into an environment where I wasn’t allowed to be myself, because me being myself constantly started or contributed to these arguments. So I ended it despite being in love

10. Yes, I found out she was married.

11. She gave me so many mixed signals. I wanted to be with her, I was happy she was so sexual with me. But, then she’d back pedal and say we weren’t like that, and she freaked out because she thought I found another women. Then I learned she went through trauma… Not her fault, I broke it off kinda weird but, I KNEW if I kept trying to get serious with her it would only do her more harm then good.