I am a person with three hospitalizations to the psychiatric floor in the hospital in the past. I have issues with mental health and overall general well-being. I have recently come to see the light in my life situation by meeting someone in person (not from those dating apps) and starting to date him.
I think the relationship moved at a faster pace. I had no complaints since it is my first relationship.
I know that this person does not want a serious relationship now. But I have the desire to drag the relationship on as long as possible.
I have the desire to self-harm. I do not want to solely because it harms others more than me.
I am currently seeing a nurse on a regular basis to check up on my mental health and because of my recent hospitalization.
He does not know about this part of me.
Dating makes me feel like a normal person. I feel as if I am capable of socializing but I want to know how others feel about this in a dating situation.
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Glad to hear you found something that helps.
Here’s the thing, if you’re dating casually and not in a “serious relationship”, then you can keep as much of your personal business to yourself as you want.
However, if you want to move to a serious relationship, you’ll need to start sharing this part of yourself with your partner. And if you want to make it easier for him, also tell him what you expect from him support wise (even if it’s ‘nothing, just give me space’), and what your boundaries are, so he can make the choice whether he’s willing to do that.
Here’s the hardest part – if you tell a guy everything and he bounces, it’s not your fault, don’t take it personally. Not everyone can handle a partner with these kinds of issues.
Hit me up if you need to vent and don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m not a therapist, and I won’t have answers, but I’ll listen. 🙂
Fix your shit. Take your time. Don’t make someone else suffer for it. Sorry to sound harsh, I have suffered mentally very frequently and I wouldn’t want my unhealth to make someone (especially someone I liked) to suffer.
If you keep your relationship out of your psych talks, then in all fairness neither should your mental health present itself to your BF. It isn’t fair that you are taking potentially dangerous short cuts when someone else is involved with you.