Me (27m) and my gf (25f) have been together for almost two years now and things are going mostly good. Only thing is that we seems to be having sex less often than before and even if we communicate a lot and both want to have sex more often like we did in the first year we have trouble getting there.
We talked about trying to find some couple therapists specialized around sex and im curious if people have any kind of success story to share?
Doesn’t have to be for the same thing but I’d like to know why you tried therapy and how did it helped?
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Lol in the first therapy session with my now ex, and I’m talking like right after our introductions and the reasons we were there, she (therapist) looked right at me and said, “stoniruca, just know that Dude On The Couch isn’t the only available man out there. Just know that, despite whatever happens here, you always have more options than him.”
Just try to listen when people
My wife went on an SSRI a bit over a year ago. She lost her libido, her ability to orgasm, and about 95% of her desire for intimacy. She also freaked out about even talking about it.
This was a complete catastrophe, inverting my happy, communicative, orgasmic horny wife.
She would not consider couples therapy or working with her shrink to fix this until I announced that I would not be celibate for the rest of my life, so I would be having sex with other people, and did she want to stay married in that mode?
That motivated her to finally work with her shrink to fix the train wreck and go to couples counseling with a sex therapist.
The counseling was useless. What is starting to work is the shrink experimenting with different psych meds.
Couple therapy was a total disaster for me