Which are some innate skills you possess that have helped you grow socially?

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1. Approaching people just to speak to them is actually quite difficult for me but when I needed something, for example when I was in college we had a council and I wanted to be president I would go up to randos like I’ve known them for years only to further my campaign. All the fear and anxiety would leave my body. I think of it as my redflag but that’s what helped me. A bit. I’m still a social weirdo but it’s gotten better.

2. Seeing many reasons/explanations why something happened. Helps not to jump to conclusions and be more open minded. Though on the other hand, have a hard time understanding what they want/mean if i can see many possibilities, thus i tend to take the literal meaning as what they actually meant.

3. I think I have a good memory, specially in a 1-on-1 setting, so I active listen a lot. It’s great for next encounters I know what stuff to ask and share.

   I think I have a good memory, so I remember too much cringy shit I did, even though I also remember some other people’s cringy moments and I feel nothing.

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5. For me, casual conversation with just about anyone isn’t all that hard. I don’t struggle with public speaking, so long as I know what I’m talking about, and I feel competent when it comes to easy chatting with strangers.

   Where I am a MESS is when I actually care at all about what someone thinks. If I admire them, envy them, or for whatever reason feel the need to please them I self-sabotage until, usually, I drive them away. I really wish I knew how to chill out in that regard.

6. Staring intently at people in silence as my autistic ass ponders what a socially appropriate response would be to the weird shit they just told me, but they start talking more in my silence, then one life story later with all associated trials, tribulations, and sins therein confessed to me, get told what a great listener I am.

   The whole time I was just like O.o