I keep seeing many posts asking where to meet people without dating apps. I’ve always used this and it has always worked for me so I thought I’d make a post .
First off you need to date with intent. Which means you need to be very clear on exactly what you are after and the kind of person you are after.
This is important as you will end finding what/who you are after a lot faster than just the standard going to clubs or bars .
Grab a pen and write down what kind of person you are attracted to , what are their hobbies , habits , occupation etc .
For example if you are a girl , you might be attracted to outgoing men who love , fashion , coffee , maybe they enjoy hiking and building stuff or repairing things around the house .
For guys , maybe you like introverted girls , who’s a home body , likes reading , cooking and is maybe a school teacher and plays an instrument and collects antics .
The above examples are quite detailed but this level of detail is needed to paint an accurate picture . Once you have this level of details . Start thinking of all the places this person would go to and go to these places .
For the example of the guy : you can go to areas with trendy coffee shops , google where they make the best coffee in your city . Browse men fashion stores which matches the style of the person you want . Join hiking groups , go to stores for building and repair supplies. Go to manufacturing expo or conventions .
For the girl in the example I gave . Go to antic stores and flea markets, go to live music bars or concerts in your area . Volunteer at your local schools or churches . Join cooking classes or book clubs , this can even be online clubs and classes . I’ve seen chef doing zoom cooking classes where they give you a list of ingredients and wine to pair and you all do the classes via zoom .
My point is if you follow this , it’s a lot easier and more efficient thank just going to a bar and it’s very much tailored to the kind of person you are attracted to .
Hope this helps 😊
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This is all great advice. The problem is the lack of proactivity from people.
The more you put yourself in positions to meet new people, the higher your likelihood is of meeting new people. Its really not that hard to grasp lol
And ultimately, if you have a negative/shitty mindset then a lot of this does not work. Nobody wants to hang with the guy who is salty about all the rejections he’s had.
Really great advice! I deleted all accounts on my dating apps and found a free monthly photography walk event in the city I’m in. I’m getting myself a film camera and would be joining in the next event.
I already have a list of what I find attractive in a man and I love photography so hopefully this is worth the shot. 😁
You listed a bunch of places but also forgot to mention that women don’t want to be approached at neither of those places by men.
So it’s basically a waste of time