I figure I’m just going to have to bite the bullet and ask. Like, no tests, no participation kind of thing. That’s how I’ve seen it done in the few sex parties/GBs I have knowledge of.

Is there a better, politer way to do it? Or basically tell everyone to get tested and use condoms?

5 comments

  1. As a organizer you determine what the rules are. If people don’t agree they need to organize something their own. But I wouldn’t mind handing over a recent test.

  3. Being straight forward does not mean being rude. Rules don’t need to be ‘polite’ they just need to be relevant. They are there for the safety of everyone. Treat it like no big deal, just like a permission slip for an elementary field trip.

    “Remember kids, if you don’t get your parents to sign your permission slip or you cant get on the bus! I know you really want to go so make sure you get them signed first thing!”

  4. That is the best and most polite way to do it. It makes everyone feel safe and promotes transparency.

  5. You have to be explicit about rules and boundaries. Otherwise people slip in all sorts of things. Things I’ve heard: “Herpes? Well that doesn’t count because so many people have it so I didn’t tell anyone.” Or “I only sleep with may partner so didn’t test. [but I know their partner has at least 3 other partners]”, etc

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