When did you accept the fact that you are ugly?

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1. From when I was able to see myself in a mirror.

2. Always knew I wasn’t handsome to any degree. But fully embraced it around 23.

3. Unless you are actually deformed, people who think they are ugly simply don’t know how to dress or act with confidence

4. I dont care and never cared how I look. Looks fade but a beautiful person on the inside is everlasting. So instead of focusing on my looks, i try to be a good person that women (or men) would want to be around and look to. Make em laugh and you will never be alone.

5. Lol you woke up and chose violence

6. when I was 10 or 11 (I’m 41 now)

7. I’d make a very beautiful woman. Clear skin, babyface, short stature, wide hips, thick hair, balanced bust, thin waist. Accepting that I was ugly was more about accepting that I didn’t want to be the beautiful woman I saw in the mirror. The things that make a woman beautiful are rarely desired in men.

8. What is beaty? Does it change?

9. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Stop caring about what you look like. It’s other peoples’ problem, not yours. You have every right to exist just as anyone else.

10. Ugliness is irrelevant for men. Attractiveness and being good looking are completely different things.

11. Kindergarten

12. Since I can think back, but I am not really ugly. It’s just when I look in the mirror or at my body I realize that I am a bag of organs which is slowly rotting away with age and that consciousness was probably a misstake if our only purpose in life is reproduction.

13. I feel attacked

14. I was 10

15. Probably 3rd or 4th grade? I’m not exactly sure but it’s somewhere around there.

16. When I was young I was obese and bullied terribly by girls. I knew I was ugly, I had no other choice. My father forced me into sports. I hated it, but I got fit. In high school, girls flirted with me constantly. I thought they were lying, just another trick. I wasn’t going to be fooled!
    When I was in my early 20s. A woman raped me with viagra and alchohol. She then guilted me into a relationship for 3 years, which I endured because, “I’m ugly, who else is going to take me?”

    When I finally got enough self esteem to escape that nightmare, I slept for a year to reboot. I went to the gym during that time, got cut. Made a profile online and posted pictures of myself and my washboard. Went on a hundred first dates, which I got easily. Then I found a girl I really liked, got married. And STILL, it took me ten years to realize I’m hot as hell and worthy of love.

    I’ll end my story there. Take from it what you will, or ignore it.

17. Early on. I had to strategize so it didn’t hurt me too badly.

18. When i fell madly in love with this girl i was hanging out with for a few months. She even admitted she felt the strongest connection with me she’s ever felt with anyone, but didn’t want to romantically date me.

19. When I followed reddits advice to get pictures taken to boost my matches on dating apps.

    I still never got a match and have never gone on a date.

    At that point, I accepted that it was truly over and I’m going to die as a kissless virgin.

20. 1st or 2nd grade.. you get used to it.

21. Around 15.

22. I won’t. Haven’t.

23. When my father told me I looked like my mother.

24. By shouting, “I’m ugly and I’m proud!”

    To be honest though, you don’t have to be a Greek God to be considered attractive. Good hygiene, dress decently well, be confident, take care of yourself (exercise/eat well/sleep well/maintain your social circle/have a good attitude/ all that jazz) and you can be a more attractive version of yourself.

    A lot of what makes someone seem attractive is their body language. When I was struggling with depression/anxiety It showed in my body language. People can tell when you’re uncomfortable or unhappy

25. My lack of dating success pretty much proves the fact.

    As I’ve got older it matters less. As I’m not looking to date or have relationships I don’t need to impress.

26. Last year, age 19.

27. Most people will have someone attracted to them. That fact that I haven’t yet is a pretty clear sign.

28. I think I’m pretty good looking when I’m alone and looking in the mirror.

    It’s when I’m around really good looking dudes that I feel ugly.

29. My guy, are you all right? Plz don’t go blackpill on us

30. We’re not ugly. We just stink

31. Well when I was a kid my peers made sure to tell me, as a adult the women I show interest in have carried that torch. Even without those the signs are there

32. If your mom stop calling you handsome or you’re her son to others, you’re done. My mom still calls me handsome.. for now..

33. I always knew that I am not handsome. But I accepted it during the time I studied.

34. I’m not ugly by any means, actually I’m decently attractive, it’s gynecomastia that fucking ruins it all

35. 25 years old. I developed a ego based personality. It was all about me. Then around 29 my boss pulled me to the side and said. “You are a good looking guy, smart, funny but a big asshole”

36. I don’t really think I’m ugly, but I’m definitely not attractive to women. I reckon around 16 I picked it up.

37. I accepted at 18. When I was a teen I looked in the mirror and saw a good looking boy. A bit chubby.

    At 18 my hair thinned so much. Male pattern baldness. I got way fat. My addiction controlled me. I have a mood disorder. I became ugly.

    I started to get my shit together at 30 and at 33 was on a new path.

    Im actually really good looking. It took so long to accept that. To understand that the looks were there underneath. And I had to find me and be beautiful on the inside as well.

    41 now. Women notice me. So weird.

    Look after your self. Be fit and active. You dont know what’s underneath. And get a fucking hair cut or shave your head if you are going bald.