I (28M) have always been very underweight (currently 5’11 114lbs). I have been treated for anorexia in the past, still really struggling with food.
I hate my body, I am extremely insecure about it, and it’s worst when having sex, to the point I don’t really want to do it. It’s been an issue during the 4 years I’ve been together with my GF, and I don’t know how much longer we’re gonna last.
My girlfriend is not large, but she is larger than me, like most people. And I just feel so small and weak when we’re having sex. I feel like a small child, and that is very gross.
I don’t really know what to do. I’ve seen therapists and sexologists for years but it isn’t helping.
(And please, I don’t need to hear “just eat more”. I know. I’m trying.)
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You’re trying to do what’s best for your body, and in turn, your body is trying to do what’s best for you. Sometimes it can be helpful to stop and try to appreciate your body for keeping you going, even if you don’t see it as attractive. Your girlfriend most likely also loves you, and most likely finds you attractive no matter how much you weigh at the time. I’m going to assume you’ve talked about the situation before with her. Maybe try to avoid visualizing your appearance for a bit. Try not to criticize yourself and shift your focus onto her body instead.