Ive been together with my girl for about 9 months now. We both REALLY love each other, atleast i know i deeply love her. But we have a fucked situation when it comes to our sexlife..
She just told me that she is confused with me as a person, in the way that ive been very “dominant” and “strong” ever since day one. She told me she expected me to be dominant in bed, and was dumbfounded when she realized i did not like it.
We have tried to switch, but i can tell shes not enjoying being dominant and it gets her frustrated. Ive tried to be dominant, but i feel disgusted (sorry!) and not at all horny.
I just feel like a CLOWN trying to act like im powerful, cause it makes me feel the opposite. I cant take a second of being submissive in daily life, but in bed all i want is to lose my controll.. Its not only sexual, but mentally healing for me.. An escape from that “ego-iron-mask” i constantly wear.. Hard to explain..
Anyways, we have tried and im not sure what else there is to do. Just go our separate ways?
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She feels exactly the same way. Is she a strong independent woman in her daily life? We want a man who will take control in the bedroom. It is exhausting always being dominant. Try couples therapy. Therapist likely has suggestions.