So I started dating this girl a little over a month ago.. we met on tinder, we hung out at my place a few times, went on some awesome dates, and really hit it off. It’s super obvious that we have an intense connection sexually, intellectually, romantically. We are both very open and moved very fast so far. She buys me gifts all the time, is very sweet, and always goes out of her way to express interest.
So we’ve been dating officially for 10 days now, by that I mean I straight up asked her to be my girlfriend officially and she said yes, we kissed and agreed to be in an exclusive relationship. We even shook on it in a somewhat quirky moment. But here’s where it gets confusing..
So before I asked her out we were watching a video on her phone and a hinge message popped up from a guy, and at the time I didn’t care because I hadn’t asked her out officially and she had every right to be on that. But today a friend of mine embarrassingly enough sent me screenshots of her on hinge, all updated pictures, and asked if that was her since I openly told him we were boyfriend and gf. I immediately felt very hurt by this and betrayed because she is really great and now I’m thinking maybe it’s a big red flag.
Also I deleted my apps even before I asked her out because it just didn’t feel right talking to other girls because it was getting more serious.
I didn’t wanna chew my friends ear off with questions so I downloaded the app and swiped for a bit and Lo and behold I found her profile. All updated pics, voice recordings, videos of her, and her relationship status was “figuring it out “. And I know the pics are new because she legit just sent them to me personally the other day and changed her hair. Lol.
Im really conflicted ab what to do in this situation tbh, like im aware we’ve only been dating officially for over a week, and seeing each other for a month, but believe me it has just been such a strong relationship we’ve built together, like she really is great and we have all these plans, and she even mentioned me meeting her family soon. But now im not sure if the trust is there after we shook on something and it was already broken. Could use some unbiased opinions. Please be honest. Thank you all
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I’m 16 months in and my partner still has her Tinder active… “I have it to keep our first messages”… yeah. She’s supposedly not a cheater and I believe that for now. But remember it’s a really strong relationship for YOUR perspective… you can’t speak for her and you’ve only been official for 10 days. Give it a few more weeks then, if the relationship is so strong, just ask her if she’s deleted the apps. In my head, there’s nothing wrong with window shopping… I guess for me the main issue is “figuring things out” and sounds like you’re just an option being strung along.
You’re exclusive…for now