Her name is O. She was my first love and my first breakup. It has been a little over a month since she broke up with me. I genuinely loved her so much and I’m having so much trouble getting over her. We dated for 6 months and 2 weeks. I don’t know how to cope healthily, and I am currently seeing a psychiatrist because this breakup really just pushed me over the edge.
I think it’s important that I preface this by stating that she’s mildly autistic, and I have ADHD and have been undergoing a serious depression for a few months. She said she broke up with me because being in a relationship was very stressful for her. She emphasized the fact that it wasn’t me specifically, just the whole romance aspect. She wanted to break up so she could prioritize her own mental health. She was very unclear on whether or not we were just taking a break, or if it was over forever.
After we broke up, she started making plans with a lot of new friends. I did not make her feel like she couldn’t do this while in a relationship with me, so I’m not sure why this was a change she made after breaking up with me. She is also drinking way more than she did when she wasn’t dating me. We both struggle with alcoholism and it feels like the breakup didn’t do either of us good in that regard. She has also been a straight A student all her life, but now she just seems to not care. I hate to see her struggling so much, and I don’t understand why she would breakup with me. I feel like she made a mistake, but I also know that she is completely valid to break up with me for whatever reason.
I really loved her a lot. She was my first romantic relationship and first kiss. I hate seeing her doing so poorly and I wish I could help her. I feel some sort of resentment towards her and I wish I didn’t. I miss her so much and I don’t know what to do. Should I tell her that I miss her? Do I just watch my favorite person completely let themself go? I feel so sad, I love her so much.
tldr: I miss my wonderful exgirlfriend. do i reach out?
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She doesn’t care about you move along sir.Get your life in order,your mental health in order and something better will come along.
You let her go. She broke up with you because she wanted to go off the rails, better like this, than you being actually attached and having to deal with the almost inevitable terrible behaviour that would be counter-productive to a successful relationship.