Anyone made this work or have advice?
We’re on night 2 of separate bedrooms and I don’t know how to make this work. We have 2 very young kids (newborn and toddler) that require all hands on deck. I don’t want to interact with him at all but we are constantly occupying the same rooms. We have to communicate about SO many household things, the animals, the vehicles, the kids, etc etc. Everything just feels the same and I don’t want it to feel the same. I can’t move out for a long time; we’re in a rural area and have no family nearby and want things to stay as condos as possible for the kids.
How to navigate this?
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I read your prior posts and this is a complete mess and he appears to have taken advantage of you during your PPD and before. You opened the marriage on his side and he was talking to her for a while and flew her out. He is 47 or so and acting like he is a teenager. I would consider speaking to an attorney to help you navigate this. Consider counseling for yourself as well to help with the PPD and any decision-making process. Be cordial and respectful until you can get the support you need for the next steps you need to take. You may want to look at the divorce sub-reddit as well.
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You could try delegating responsibilities and times to limit your interactions. Perhaps written down tasks could eliminate communication. I know someone that is doing this and they split days – one day for her and one day for him. Dinner times are together but otherwise everything else is separate. They just tell the young kids the other parent has to work. I’m sorry this is tough especially with two young kids that need all the attention.
try to communicate through email or text and ask that you communicate less through talking so you can get used to being separated. Try to be around him less. Plan your outings for when he is at home.