I’ve been single for 4 years now and it eats at me I can’t even lie. I’ve heard everyone’s advice and I just can’t take it. I’m over the self love.
Here’s the thing, i’m not ugly. Not rich but my financial state isn’t bad. I am overweight, which I always thought people will love you at any size which is apparently wrong too.
I’ve started working out in the gym so I can be more physically active at work and smile more when I look in the mirror.
The “stop looking” “it will come when you least expect it” “manifest” ive heard it all. Ive taken everyones advice from “go slow” and “meet people naturally.
I don’t focus on being single as much but it’s difficult especially when all of your friends are in happy relationships.
I just want to be loved.
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Look there’s no such thing as “I look like this or that” or “have this or that much money” because I’m above average looking, and since quitting drinking, smoking and partying, even better looking than before, I’m outgoing and love chatting to anyone about anything, I’m in a pretty good comfortable position with work, finances and time for myself.. and I’ve always wanted something real and long term, but I’ve been single for over 2 years.
And I know a guy, who is is biblically “oh wow look at him” attractive, tall, really nice, funny, great job, and has been single for most of his adult life, and is depressed because he can’t meet someone.
I know people who are both unattractive and attractive, rich and poor, this and that and everything else in between.. some of them are single, some of them married.
There are no rules, no standards, no frames of reference. This shit is chaos, and we’re all getting fucked or blessed no matter who we are.. so don’t beat yourself up, it’s not your fault.