All my close friends live in my old state/are online friends and it’s really hard not to just rely on coworkers. I used to have plans almost every night back in my old state with friends from all over, and now I’m lucky if my coworkers want to grab a drink on Fridays. How do I get recreate my group? I prefer to exercise solo and my hobbies aren’t necessarily social ones.
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You have to pick one or more places where you can see people regularly. So for most people it could be: work, neighborhood/building/living space, exercise class, volunteer work, adult recreational sports, hobby/interest group, professional club, political action group, adult ed class, etc.
You start up regular conversations each time you see people so you can develop a rapport. After a while you need to invite the person to do something OUTSIDE the place where you know them from. So, something simple like get a cup of coffee, go for a walk or run, grab lunch, do an errand together, check out a new part of town etc. Then you follow up with brief ‘check-in’ texts a couple times a week.