I live in a 3 bed semi detached house with my parents, we have a master bedroom with an en-suite another proper bedroom and a tiny room that serves as office space and guest room where we have a pull out sofa from argos that’s incredibly uncomfortable. The house is not very big but it’s perfect for just us.
Whenever we have guests staying over my mum always puts the guests in the nicer bedrooms and I usually end up in the office and they sleep downstairs in the living room. Do you/ your parents do the same? I’m just wondering because sometimes I feel like she’s exaggerating with how hospitable she is :))
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My parents never turfed me out of my bedroom.
When my nan used to stay over at Christmas, she slept on the sofa.
My husband and I bought a one-bed property for the soul purpose of not having room for visitors though.
All my extended family stay in their own beds, the guests are then in the spare room or on an inflatable mattress in another room
Depends.
One thing will be the age of the guest. You wouldn’t put an 80 year old on an inflatable mattress.
The other thing may be so that they’re reciprocating like for like – if your parents have gone to stay with them before and had a ‘proper’ room they may feel obliged to offer them similar in return.
I have a normal bed in my room and then a folding camp bed in the spare room. I would always offer a visitor the real bed, but secretly hope they just went for the spare room.
My husband and I have a small 2 bed house, but one bedroom is mainly a study and we have these two armchairs that fold into a bed. It’s fine for a night or two but definitely not long-term. We also have a sofa bed in our outbuilding for additional guests, and some blow up beds which we can put in our living room.
The only people who stay over are our friends of a similar age or younger. It’s not very comfortable for anyone who might have mobility issues or a bad back. We advise our family to stay in nearby hotels instead.
My study has a sofa bed in it
Your mum sounds like Mrs Bucket
I wouldn’t invite someone to stay without a guest bedroom.
I always used to get booted out of my room for guests, and I had to go and sleep in the tiny spare room when I lived at home. If we had more people over, my mother would also sleep in the spare room with me, or on the sofa.
I have a single bed in my spare room, so if one person is staying they get that. If a couple are staying, I go and sleep in the spare room and they get my room which has a double bed.
Depends who. My younger brother gets the pull out or the sofa (assuming all othe room are taken), childless couples get the spare with the single + trundle bed, friends who arrive with a travel cot in tow get our room as it’s the only one that’s big and comfy enough.
They can sleep on the floor. Maybe the airbed if they’re lucky.
I have a one bedroom flat and I’ll give up my room and sleep on the sofa bed. It’s a proper nice one though so it doesn’t really irk me other than having to sleep in the living room.
We have a 2 bedroom house and we’ve taken 1 bedroom each, so for guests we have a double sofabed in the living room with a good mattress topper. We rarely get guests and we rarely use the living room ourselves, so it’s fine for a guest to take over it while they’re staying.
If the guests needed something more substantial or if it was a mother+child situation, I’d just let them take my bed and I’d use the sofabed while they were here.
I deliberately vetoed having a second bed in the house todisincentive putting people up.
Guests should be accommodated in the best room.
I’ve even vacated my own master bedroom to accommodate guests.
You want your guests to be comfortable, right?
I just go to bed and leave them , up to them where they sleep
They can put themselves in a hotel 🤷
I would never offer my own bed to visitors. That’s mine. They can sleep in the spare room or on a sofa or if they don’t like those options, they can leave.
Guests take our teenager’s double bed, and teenager uses the sofa bed in his brother’s room – I should add that that was the condition attached to his getting the biggest room and a big bed.
If brother has a friend staying over the friend would use the sofa bed; the youngest has bunk beds so that’s where a friend would go, or nephew if he’s sleeping over.
If the older children have multiple guests they usually drag bedding downstairs and spread out all over the living room and conservatory.
We don’t have many people staying over more than one night, and they’re always family.
Despite living in a one bed flat, me & Mr apple have had a few guests over the years. Where they stay depends on who they are and what they’re comfortable with really.
If its friends, they’ll typically take the sofa. It’s not particulalry comfortable as its a small 2 seater, but it does for a night.
One friend came stay for a few days avtwr splitting with his girlfriend.. But being 6ft 7 the sofa just wasn’t going to work. We took all the cushions off, moved the sofa out the way and laid them out in one long narrow “bed” on the floor. Not great, but better than the sofa or going back to the flat he’d shared with his ex.
When my mum stays over, me and her will take the bed and Mr apple sleeps on the sofa (or goes to his mums for the weekend). Once, my mum and her friend stayed over. I took the sofa, Mr apple took the two back cushions from the sofa and made do on the floor.
And there was a time we had another friend stay over with her 2 kids (12 and 7yrs old). Friend took the sofa, and the kids shared a blow up bed that friend bought with her. That was a mad weekend.
Now me & Mr apple are buying a 3-bed house and I can’t wait to have a guest room, even if it will double up as an office most of the time.
Really depends who it is and how many people are staying, there’s like a whole hierarchy:
– If it’s one guest, they have the spare bedroom which has a single bed.
– If it’s two of our close friends or my brothers, one has the spare bedroom/single bed, the other has the blow up bed in the box room so that everyone has their own privacy. Me and my partner keep our own bed.
– If it’s a couple, they have our bedroom/double bed, and one of us has the spare bedroom, and the other has the living room/sofa.
– If there’s multiple guests: a couple has our bedroom/double bed. Someone who we want to be polite/especially hospitable to (or who has gone quite out of their way to visit us) can have the spare bed/their own room. We put the blow up bed in the living room and me and my partner have the sofa and the blow-up bed (one each obvs).
– This summer there will be even more overnight guests so we’ll probably get additional blow-up beds and distribute them among rooms so that people who don’t mind sharing a room with each other are ok. My partner is insisting I keep my own bed this time as I’m pregnant and none of our friends will want me sleeping on the sofa/blow-up bed, but we’ll see.
I agree with your mum. The ultimate aim is maximum comfort and maximum privacy for guests.
We always slept on the floor, once the adults had had their fill. All the cousin’s would sleep together in the living room blankets and pillows, pillow if you were old enough. 3 bedroom house btw.
Honestly if you have a 3 bed house you have plenty of options for guests. Most people don’t have as much space as you, so guests end up on the sofa.
I’d put them in a taxi.
They can’t have our bed so it’s the inflatable double or the sofa.
I have a playroom they could stay in on inflatable mattress , currently no blinds though so I’d need to sort that.
Lounge sofa isn’t bug enough to sleep on so that’d be out.