How do others deal with the want for something outside of your marriage?

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1. You have to kill those thoughts before they turn into an obsession. I find it best to go take it out on my partner in bed.

2. a lot of people have crushes while in committed relationships, just do the right thing and distance yourself from that person instead of pursuing it

3. Discussion with your partner. Weigh the desire for the thing with the desire of staying in your marriage (assuming the two are likely mutually exclusive). Discussing it with a therapist. Whatever you do, do not seek to get it without telling your partner.

4. An open marriage.

5. Everybody’s different. Maybe your wife would be cool with it. Maybe she could join in or be involved in some way, we have no way of telling you.

   You could compromise and try something new with your wife instead to get your fix.

6. For some more context we’re 4 years married together for 10 I know I don’t want to go out and physically get with anyone but there’s a rush from flirtation and the chase of another woman that I can’t get past. Previously I have been able to but this time it’s lingering! So suggestions ideas or advice are much appreciated!

   Thanks!

7. Get into a hobby that requires a lot of time, money, and energy.

8. Disipline.

9. Remember a happy mariage is a beautiful but rather fragile thing. The factor of kids is also huge.

10. Suppress. You’ll get used to it 🤷🏻‍♂️

11. I embrace reality.

    What’s the value of the chase to you, compared to the reality of the relationship you’re currently in. Not sure if you have kids, but that’s the biggest factor for me, the family I have and am responsible for.

    Why chase a bit of a dick tingle, ego boost, when the best part of my life is waiting for me back at home.

12. Something or someone

13. Fuck her right in the pussy

14. Everything that makes my life good now is a direct result of the life and partnership we’ve built. A fleeting thrill isn’t worth losing all of that, let alone the hurt it would cause.

    Personally something that’s difficult (and many others may relate) is that we both work from home and have a small child. So we’re always around each other and know everything about what’s going on in each other’s lives. So even on date nights we find ourselves just filling each other in on the small details or talking about all the busy weekends that are filling up our summer. All this to say, you may be missing the social aspect of dating, maybe she is too. Find something to fill it with together

15. Simply remove yourself from situations with other women that create these feelings. If merely talking to them gives you ideas, then simply don’t talk to them outside of professional settings. Simply don’t.

16. You day dream all day.