I (31f) started dating a man (25m). It was a romantic, passionate, travel romance where we tried to make it work in the real world (outside the beaches of Mexico). I continued to solo travel for 2 months while he returned to his life in California. All was going well and we decided that I would move to California to be closer to him and attempt the relationship in real life. It was magical when we reunited after two months, and we shared an amazing 3 weeks.
After receiving many job offers, I headed back to Canada to prepare for the move. After being apart for a month, he developed feelings for another person and decided to end the relationship. One day he was planning a van trip across the county with me and telling me how much he loves me, and the next day wanting to end the relationship (after 4 months of dating). I was devastated and completely blindsided.
I am now in the midst of moving my entire career and life to a new country (California, USA). I love the climate, lifestyle, and it’s a great job opportunity. And I would be leaving everything and everyone I know here in Canada to move to a place where I know no one (again – this is not my first rodeo).
Dare I start over in a place that I was introduced to by my ex, but still love outside of the previous relationship? Or is this tainted and doomed for failure?
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It’s the hot and cold. That’s an automatic sign that it won’t work. Chances are there were many other red flags in the beginning that you ignored that led to this. You should know better, but I get that we’re all human. He was also a jerk for leading you on. Move on and learn from your mistakes.