The older I get (29F) the more I crave physical pain. It started sexually where I love to get bit, penetrated deeply or even fisted. But now it’s turning into a sexual fetish where I want to meet someone that will explore this with me. The other day I was ripping a scab off of my knee and afterwards I realized I kind of got off on it. I’m a little weirded out by this kink and confused as to why it’s occupying a lot of my mental space. Am I sick and twisted? Is this sexual masochistic behavior? Will this turn most men off? How common or uncommon is this?
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Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You don’t need trauma or abuse in your background to enjoy pain.
Pain hits differently for many people, and there are millions of masochists on this planet that are right there with you.
It’s extremely common to be a masochist especially amongst women. You’re in good company 🙂
There’s nothing wrong with you! Tons of people like to mix pleasure and pain. You just need to find a safe way to explore this kink and get the satisfaction you want without doing real harm to yourself.
To get it out of the way of your 4 burning questions
1. For a normal person, yes. But i don’t judge kinks too much
2. Could be. But i can’t say for certain this will put you as a masochist. Maybe a start to be one, but I’m not clear where the line starts
3. From the looks of it, yes and no. There is a whole subreddit for BDSM, and a lot of people visit and like the posts there. No because i can’t say for sure about the statistics between them
4. Sadly, i can’t answer that, princess 😅
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Maybe this is your first upbringing of a new kink. The older we get, doesn’t mean we won’t be discovering new things about ourselves😉. So to top it off, i would like to wish you a happy discovery and hope you’ll find more new things about yourself later down the line
Nothing wrong with it but be careful- there are reasonable ways to explore this and unsafe one.
I’m the same way. Also started in my late 20s and early 30s. It’s like my way of releasing the tension and stress that I endure all day. My husband pounding my cervix daily is the perfect mix of pleasure and pain and for a few minutes, I forget all the other things that drag me down. Just beat this pussy up and I’ll be fine.
Sounds like you are a masochist and you just need to find a nice sadist to explore with.
Not weird. U learn to embrace things more when u get older.
I thought I was weird too. I don’t like to get hurt or get cuts or scrapes, but once it happens… it’s like I can’t leave it alone, the pain is just such a nice feeling in the background. like if I have a busted lip, yeah it hurts like a bitch but sometimes I’ll bite it a little bit just to feel the pain. why? I couldn’t tell you 😭😭
You’re fine! I realised I had a bit of a pain thing when I’d get super horny after a wax or laser hair removal treatment lol. Had the most intense orgasm of my life after getting my IUD placed even though that was so awful I had to sit and cry in my car after.
Just embrace it, there’s plenty of dudes out there who will be happy to spank you raw, trust me. Best thing you can do is explore what you do and don’t like pain-wise (for myself, I like sharp stingy but brief pain, and only after being warmed up properly, with a short break in between each strike, so spanking is ideal for me). Once you know what works, it becomes much easier to ask for
Head over to r/bdsmadvice for more info if you need
Just have some sense about it and know your limitations and be safe and not do stupid stuff that you will regret or suffer later. But there’s nothing the wrong with liking pleasurable pain. I by the way love it. I can take a lot of pain myself the more the merrier and the more turned on it makes me. I’ve been like this for years.
There are so many resources and communities and people who teach about consent and limits and everything you can think of that with a little research you can find safe people to get freaky with. Take advantage of all of it instead of getting caught up with abusive rapey assholes.
And have fun!
Stop watching Cronenberg movies!
I’m the same way to an extent. I need some pain to be involved in order to have a good orgasm. I can cum without it but it’s just kind of flat. I cum the hardest while being penatrated and being hurt at the same time. Sometimes it can be exterally, like being choked, having my hair pulled hard, getting smacked in the face, or spanked. But it’s better when it is internally, like if a partner has a bigger cock and can really hit my cervix hard. Or if I am really being stretched a lot. Fisting feels amazing! But I think I cum the hardest and most reliably from really rough anal sex. If I’m laying on my stomach and my partners cock is pointed more at a straight down angle, it rams into my clitoris. I always try to push my partners to go harder too. I’ve never had someone be too rough for me to handle. Maybe that means I haven’t had it rough enough?