What is an important life lesson you learnt the hard way?

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1. Get your wisdom teeth removed as soon as possible, I waited until mine were all broken and painful. Dental health in general is important and unfortunately expensive.

   Loud music is cool and all, but tinnitus isn’t worth it.

2. Managing stress. Going into adulthood, no one tells you it’s going to be a huge juggling act. You’re attacked from every direction at random occasions and practically at all times with all sorts of situations. All you can really do is to tackle them as they come, resolve them as soon as they arrive (if possible), and attempt to simplify your life if you hate having a nearly non-ending streams of things to contend with. Basically, don’t allow things to build up and don’t stress unless a situation is truly worth stressing about.

3. Anyone is capable of anything. Never think that someone just never can’t do anything. We are all capable of the best and the worst, so without being cynical, don’t idolize or put anyone on a pedestal.

4. You can’t control people…

5. Listening is not something we all are good at. You have to practice and develop it.
   Make space and time for others to talk

6. Not over 30 yet but who you marry is the most important decision of your life. I’ve seen successful guys who did everything right except pick the wrong wife, and life is all ruined. On the contrast, I’ve seen guys who did nothing right but picked the right wife actually have a better life than the former. We spend all this time perfecting our health, jobs, education, careers, hobbies, friends, vacation destinations, investment plan, and not nearly enough time searching and dating for the right woman. Especially in today’s collapsing marriage climate, this is now more important than ever before.

7. There’s a good reason 50% of marriages end in divorce. I will not make the same mistake twice. And it sucks that I had to make it once at all.

8. Perception is reality. You can have the best intent but how your actions are perceived is what will come out on top

9. Deal with your shit or deal with the consequences of your shit. Those are the options, choose wisely.

10. You’ll lose friends and often for no reason other than you’re on different paths

11. A person can be a kind community well good mannered person with everyone.

    But the person they like/love is in a different category than the rest of the world, and sometimes they become monsters against that person.

    It’s surreal how people don’t get this difference.

12. If you have hit a low point of anxiety and/or depression…you are going to have to tough it out, and be patient, to get better.

    Quick solutions fueled by desperation will only lead to…more suffering.

13. Check yourself before you wreck yourself

    For me, it’s my thoughts. I didn’t start checking my thoughts until maybe a year ago

14. At work, no matter what you do or think you do, your primary job is TO GET ALONG WITH OTHERS. Your second priority may be the job description, it may also be to get along.

15. Porn fucks ur brain up.

16. Nothing is real except what you perceive, and nothing matters / any choice is right, as long as it is truly willed.

    However this also holds true for everyone simultaneously so things can and WILL get fucky. Don’t try to exert control over anything and desire nothing, especially love. Just exist.

    Idk it’s probably more personal based. High highs and low lows that’s life yeah sure. Me? I can’t take it. Rather be a static line. Sometimes I just go outside and pretend I’m a tree. Lol … Cheers bud.

17. Don’t try to be something you are not.

    I went to college for music since that was the only subject my parents could use to convince me to go to college. I just wanted to get in the workforce and earn money. Sure it helped in my life but I never made a career of it. A two year program at the local community college in general studies would have been just as good, in hindsight.

    I spent over a year in a few sales positions because both my parents excelled in that field. I’m better with behind-the-scenes work where I only interact with people I see every day.

18. To surround myself with people who want what is best for me.

19. That being friendly to strangers leads strangers to think you’re weird.