Hi I’m new to to Reddit so I might some mistakes I 21 F have always been interested in BDSM since I was 19yrs old whips, chains, leashes the whole get up. The thing is my bf 21 m doesn’t have much of an interest as he doesn’t like the idea but of inflicting pain onto others bedroom wise so how do I tell him, any advice is appreciated
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Just open up and tell him what your interests are. Sexual compatibility is an important piece of a relationship. There’s often something said for just coming out and laying it all out there!
The experience of many subs in the BDSM community is that it is difficult, frustrating and often futile to try to coach an uninterested person into topping you.
You can ask, but if he’s not interested, it’s not likely to work, and this might accelerate a break-up.
Pain is often a limit for people who are into BDSM too. I’m sorry if that’s your biggest kink and you happened on a person who isn’t willing to indulge you, but it’s not all of BDSM.
Start small, only with light bondage and simply mental submission. Anyone should be ok to try that much.