I met Ryan during our senior year of college, and we’ve been together for four years now. Recently, I made a huge mistake that has shaken our relationship. While doing some spring cleaning, I asked Ryan to take a bunch of old electronics, including an unused computer, to a recycling plant.
To my surprise, when I returned home, I discovered that Ryan had found the power plug for the computer and stumbled upon old photos of me with exes that I had completely forgotten about. I immediately deleted all of those pictures from my phone and main computer when we started dating, but somehow, these ones slipped my mind.
I feel incredibly dumb, and I can’t even begin to imagine how hurt Ryan must be. We had even been talking about our future together, including marriage. Now, he can barely stand being in the same room as me, even though he insists that he doesn’t blame me and acknowledges his mistake in snooping.
The real challenge now is figuring out how we can move forward and repair our relationship. I want to stress that I never cheated on Ryan, and I never had any intention of keeping those pictures. When we started dating, I made sure to delete everything, but unfortunately, I completely overlooked this particular computer. While Ryan regrets snooping, it doesn’t change the fact that we’re dealing with this issue now.
I’m terrified that our relationship might be irreparably damaged, and the thought alone makes my stomach churn.
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This is not something you should be beating yourself up over, he should be ashamed himself for snooping on the laptop you asked him to dispose of. You did nothing wrong here.
You literally posted 30 minutes ago that you met an amazing guy on a dating app. You also posted that you do onlyfans. To each their own but a majority of guys usually aren’t cool with their gf doing onlyfans or being on dating apps meeting amazing guys. You state that you never cheated on him, I’d consider going on a date with a guy from a dating app cheating.
Maybe start there.
Delete Ryan now.
He shouldn’t have connected the power cord. Why did me thought to switch on ? Was he doubting you ?
1) This exact same post was made a few days ago on a different account, so you using it is bullshit.
2) You have a post from earlier today talking about a date you just went on, so you kinda gave away that you arent in a serious relationship.
So you’re 23 and 27 or are you schizophrenic?
She just deleted a post where she said she was 23 lol Don’t believe a word she says 😭😭