I (18M) have been with my girlfriend (18F) for over a year. Recently she told me that she wanted to be respectfully (or even a little disrespectfully) objectified by me. She said she means mostly in the bedroom as a form of foreplay but also just at random times, she didn’t give anymore context and when I asked for examples she said to foget she asked.
I’m not very good at dirty talk or anything like that and whenever i try I just use the words “hot” and “nice” alot. I want to make her feel sexy but I just dont know how to do that. Any help with things to say or, better yet, how to come up with them naturally would be appreciated. What should I say to make my girlfriend feel respectfully objectified?
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It just means to show your desire for her, how much she turns you on and makes you horny. I absolutely love it when my man ravishes me – starts feeling me up and rubbing his hands all over my body, pressing his hard cock against me, whispering in my ear how hot I look or how much he wants to fuck me. And it’s the best when it’s unexpected like if I’m just standing at the sink doing dishes or we are headed out the door to dinner – surprises me and gives me a thrill!
It means she absolutely trusts you and knows you respect her.
You treat her like a lady in the street. Now she wants to be treat like a freak in the bed.
She trusts you and is allowing herself to be vulnerable by letting you into her dirty secrets. She wants to feel desired and attractive. She wants to know how much you want her body and NEED her. Perhaps, depending on what she means, she may want to feel like you are embracing your desires and using her to your advantage. You would have to clarify with her and make sure what you want to do is okay with her. When I was her age, I absolutely loved the feeling of my man, now my husband, objectifying me.
Image what you want, look her in the eyes and tell her what to do. “Open your legs”, “take a deep breath”, “kiss me here”, “touch yourself for me”, “on your knees”, “give me your hands”, “Swallow for me”…. That escalate quickly.
The best way to sound genuine is to really think about what you want to do to her and tell her what you want… should lead to the more dominant dirty talk she’s looking for.
If your worried about being overly disrespectful just add baby/babe into it to gauge her feelings about what you’re saying first.
Don’t forget to have fun.
Edit: grammar
you gotta show her how much you want her. she wants you to act animalistic horny, like she’s nothing (objectified) and you don’t care about her feelings because of how bad you want her. that’s what it comes down to. stop trying to pry her about specifics. just next time you’re about to have sexy time, choke her while you’re making out, pull her close and tell her you’re going to fuck the shit out of her and she’s gonna lay there and take it. i know it might seem awkward to you but you gotta be like fuck it im gonna say this shit as confident as i can. after you say that, turn her around, push her hard into doggy position on the bed and rip her pants off as rough as you can without literally ripping her pants. then pull her hair to pull her head up to you and put your hand around her throat and make out with her for a second or two then push her back down and then have sex with her as rough as you can. sorry for being explicit. i just have the sense you just need to know what you have to do specifically. let me know how it goes and if you have any questions
It’s not just about the things you say. It’s about what you do. Here are some suggestions:
– tell her that she’s your good little xxxx (whore, slut, cumslut, bitch)
– smack that ass
– put your hand around her throat GENTLY but firmly when you’re fucking her (DON’T SQUEEZE UNLESS SHE ASKS, AND EVEN THEN, PLEASE BE CAREFUL! this is VERY DANGEROUS if you
– refer to her mouth, ass, vagina as “holes” (this seems to be really popular as of late)
– tell her that her holes belong to you
– tell her how hard she makes your dick
– people also really seem to be into spitting but this is hit or miss in my opinion. gross imo (and really not good as a lubricant) but some people find it hot/sexy. you can spit in her mouth or on her pussy/ass and play with it.
– put your fingers in her mouth. lots of things you can do with this – fish hook her when you’re fucking her from behind. make her suck on your fingers when you’re eating her out. put your fingers down her throat. cover her mouth when you’re fucking her so she can’t make noise.
– TELL her what to do. “suck my dick” “ride my cock”
– pull her hair when fucking
– guide her head when she’s sucking
– hold her down when you’re fucking her
These may sound like extreme suggestions, but they don’t have to be. It’s all about the execution. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, pretend like you’re role playing and “play a part.” Try to have fun with it. If it works and you turn her on, you might find that you enjoy it. OR – you might decide you HATE it and then you can set some boundaries.
Also – CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT. Come up with a plan for if she feels uncomfortable and wants to stop. A safe word and action, like tapping you on the leg to say “stop.”
EDIT: After you’re done respectfully degrading her (and you guys aren’t having sex anymore), be sure to check in and ask her how she feels. Also – be extra affectionate and sweet to her, as she may end up feeling really vulnerable. This is referred to as “aftercare” and it can be REALLY important for some people.