Posting this on an alt because I feel extremely embarrassed talking about this.
As the title says, I am a 21 year old male virgin who never masturbated. I didn’t grow up in a strict or religious household. I showed a very active level of horniness as a teenager, and watched porn. Despite that, I never once had my foreskin pulled back. I assume it was because I was too scared about tearing my foreskin/penis and it just hurting in general.
I tried my first ever attempt to masturbate two days ago, and it ended up being a horrific experience. I couldn’t even go more than two seconds or go past the tip before I started to have a panic attack and feel severely nauseous. I ended up with an unbearable stomach pain the next day because of just how immensely triggering it was for my anxiety. I don’t know if it was due in part to being overwhelmed with the sensation of doing it, if I was worried that I had phimosis, if it was some kind of body trauma, or a mixture of all of the three. I am nearly convinced that it made me fear sex as a potential prospect entirely because it has really hurt my confidence.
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Dude it’s totally fine. We’re all people and we all do it. Just take your time. There’s no exact way to do it. Just be patient and enjoy the experience. Stop when u have to. Breathe it out and go for it man!
Have you ever pulled your foreskin back to clean your penis whilst you shower/bathe? if you have it is along the same lines, if you want, you can even try to lube the inside of the foreskin whilst flaccid and then when erect it may come down below the tip itself.
If you haven’t ever pulled it back, then I recommend slowly trying it day by day, and if it hurts at all, then stop and go to a doctor about concerns for phimosis. Also, what is the size of your penis? very personal, I know but the shape and size can play a part. How long is it and how thick is it at the tip and at the base? your foreskin could be under tension due to the shape, and is your penis curved at all? Mine is curved and I have noticed that sometimes when I get erect it’s uncomfortable and even hurts at times when I peel the foreskin back when fully erected.