I’ve put my career, upskilling and as of recent, home renovations at the forefront of my focus and as such I’m all of a sudden in my mid \[M\]20’s (That has gone *shockingly* fast). Least to say I watched a romance show a friend recommended and it sort of gave me a mental kick up the ass that I can’t just neglect that side of my life anymore.
Having been out of the loop for 4 years now (lockdowns *really* didn’t help here and made me too comfortable being with myself and people online) I’m pretty out of touch. Honestly, I want to sort of “fast-track” myself in terms of romantic and sexual experience to make up for my 4 year hiatus to be someone who’s not just able to get with the woman I wish, but stay with them and be a great partner.
So, this is where I ask, what would be a good approach to this? Just an fyi, I’m currently a bit out the way of any city and don’t have a heap of spare cash floating around for dates (Economy is doing numbers on that right now). I’m open to casual or hookups – whatever it takes to get more up to speed and if any of those experiences lead somewhere I’m open to seeing where it goes.
Appreciate any help and insight! š
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It may not be something you should fast track. I’m 27 myself and just got out of a 7 year relationship and I’m realizing it is going to take my several months before I’m comfortable being back in the dating scene. Rushing/desperation is a lot more obvious to see than you would think and is a very unattractive look.
I agree with the other comment: just take your time with it and donāt rush it; itās supposed to be an enjoyable experience. Donāt have any expectations and have some thick skin bc you might get hurt along the way, which is normal so donāt let it deter you lol!
You could go on dating apps which seems like the easiest way to date esp for a fast track method and just see how it goes from there. Just be honest with them with what you want: a casual relationship or something serious, whatever. A tip: some people might not like you and thatās okay, itās nothing to take personally. You have to have the āon to the next oneā sort of mentality.
Iām a girl so I donāt really have much of an idea but guy friends have told me that dating apps are particularly harder for men so I would take that with a pinch of salt lolš but good luck!!