For those who have forgiven their SO for flirting or giving another person attention in front of you, how did you forgive and move on?

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2. I’d hope there aren’t any real answers here that can actually explain it. Flirting with another person while being in a monogamous relationship is disrespectful and shouldn’t be tolerated. If you decide to forgive, you’re just asking to be a doormat with no self-respect.

3. I nagged about it but remembering it still causes me to be concerned at times because I could see that my partner never validated the way I felt about the situation

4. I’m sorry OP. I don’t have the “forgiving and moving on” story. I witnessed him flirting numerous times. Told him how I felt. He kept doing it. I kept doing what I call stuffing it. In other words, my coping mechanism was to sort of block it out, and then move on. Finally, there were too many things, and I had no more room for stuffing. That, along with a number of other issues, and we divorced.

5. There would be nothing to forgive unless it was intended to be disrespectful/hurtful or if it was taken too far. Jealousy robs people of joy.

6. I saw bringing it up kept hurting him. By the time I forgave he was too hurt to love me anymore. Life is cruel.