Hello, so recently, I’ve been seeing this guy, he was so sweet, so nice, and all into me when we first started talking. I’ve only known him for a couple of months. We had sex a few times, or whatever the case. He recently relocated for work and now we are working out long distance. He mentioned to me one of our friends that’s a female saying that “ you think she would let me fuck?” And I’m going along with it and like “yeah”. And he was like it’s just a joke. Today he sent me a video talking about “ if my girl had a dream of me cheating I’m going to make her dreams come true and bang another female” and I told him I didn’t like it and he was like chill it’s just a joke. I don’t think our relationship is the same anymore & I don’t like jokes like these. He has a dark humor and I really don’t like it. I’m (22F) btw
5 comments
You can read my other post I made about him the other day, I don’t know how to feel or what to do.
He’d probably like to have an open relationship
Nah because I was with a girl like this once, and she would always make “jokes” like this in our relationship. Eventually she did end up cheating and during the confrontation, she used the “jokes” as an excuse. Like saying “I was *telling you* who I was” between sobs, and telling me she can’t help it, she just cheats blah blah 🙄 why bother even dating if you’re this “self aware”?? 🤦🏻♀️
Now idk for sure if your guy is the same way, but I personally wouldn’t risk it. That was such a headache.
It’s a common behavior for cheaters to always think their partners are cheating too and be hyper aggressive about the accusations.
He’s telling you what he’s going to do.
Listen to him.
Believe him.
LEAVE HIM.
Unless you’re okay with him chasing strange and maybe using protection (or maybe not).
He seems to think he owns you, so any “open” relationship would probably be one-sided–for him only.