My crush is already in a relationship but she once mentioned me it was a borderline kind of and I can understand through her words that she is not happy with it.
She is more close to me and shares more things with me than her boyfriend. I think she suppresses her feelings for me because she thinks one should not leave someone for someone else, it’s kind of betrayal.
I love her too much and I really care for me and I know that she does too. I sometimes feel guilty that I can in between them unknowingly but I can’t help it, it’s a matter of heart. And she never mentioned her boyfriend’s name to me and she doesn’t likes talking about him when I pick that topic.
What does this mean and what should I do?
TD;LR : I need to understand what my crush actually feels about me and why she is controlling her feelings for me when she is not happy with her ongoing relationship.
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Maybe her relationship problems are caused by her proximity to you. So maybe that’s why she doesn’t like talking about her bf to you, because you keep asking her questions and you meddle in their business. Maybe you should leave her alone for a bit and let her deal with her stuff. All this matter of heart BS you use to justify your behavior is really selfish actually.
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She can spend all the time she wants with you and talk to you about all the secret and personal stuff she wants with you but if she’s not with you , then that’s the problem
And that would be okay if you weren’t obsessed with her, like if you just accept the fact that she’s using you as support and not as her boyfriend, but you are obsessed, so you need to distance yourself.
Hopefully distancing yourself gives you the chance to reflect and realize that you need to get out there and find somebody who will actually be your girlfriend , not just somebody who is your friend girl.