I’m a guy in my late 20s, starting to feel pretty lonely.
I’m not very close with either parent, my grandparents are all dead, and the families on both sides are generally distant and very unpleasant. I also moved recently, had to stop talking to my only close male friend recently (long story), and while I’m grateful for several of my online friends, online isn’t the same thing as someone you can actually hang out with.
If anyone has been in a similar situation and knows good activities or places to meet people, I’d be grateful for your perspective. This kind of thing is starting to weigh on me more than I’d like, and I’m tired of spending all my time at home or at work.
Thanks!
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Try and find some people that you have things in common with. An example would be the gym, if you workout, try and find some folks that maybe you can work out with and that tends to build from there.
Again, just one of many examples. I’ll throw this in though, you don’t need a million friends, just a few great ones.
Godspeed to you.
Why do you need one? I’m in my 30s now and have been just fine handling shit on my own
I have no friends, family, gf, or coworkers. I joined a church group. I am non denomination Christian so any church that isn’t catholic works for me. I went church shopping and found one I liked. I am also a veteran so I go to groups at the VA hospital.
Firstly, start by playing to your strengths. You seem like an intelligent and friendly guy, so just put more of that energy into the real world rather than online. Talk to your coworkers about doing stuff outside of work. Check out game stores and hobby shops. See if maybe you can join a local role playing group. Stuff like that.
Also just be honest with people, without laying it on too thick or sounding needy. Just say that you’re looking to build relationships, make friends, and have a stronger social life. People will likely respond to that.
I hung out in a blue collar dive bar in my 20s. If you’re comfortable meeting people it’s real easy to establish a friend group from the regulars.
Go on jog. Run with people. Go to your favorite restaurant, see who else likes the same food. Put yourself in any situation where there are people that share something with you
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If you like boardgames (and even if you don’t), chances are that there’s a boardgames group in your area. In my community, one such group meets at our local library on Saturdays. I found out about the group through a local news website. If your interested, you can check at your local library or local community center. Also, you can check at nearby game and hobby shops, especially if they have table space.
Volunteer opportunities. A good place to start is local food pantries. They’re always looking for volunteers. And if they have a drive-thru service, that usually involves getting a bunch of volunteers together in order to staff the site.
If your in decent shape, look for community based adult sports team leagues, like softball, basketball, volleyball, etc. If you like working with kids, offer to become a coach for little league.
If you like music, chances are there’s a venue in your area that specializes in tribute bands. Check out some of those. Surprisingly, it’s a decent place to meet women, especially from the era of that band.
Here’s one that a lot of people don’t think about. Get yourself a P/T job at a bar. It helps if you’ve got prior experience and you’re sociable. Still, you make some extra cash, you talk to lots of people.
Those are just a few. There are opportunities out there, if you just look
Team sports. Support groups. Volunteer. Meetup.com. Church or community groups (if that’s your vibe).