Good evening everyone,
I wanted, if possible, some advice on a relationship with a friend who I’m hearing by phone/chat. Premise I am 37m years old she is older (I think 42/45f).
After a few months of talking to each other, since I find it particularly good to talk to her, I decide to ask her for a friendly date, to get to know her live face to face, without romantic intentions:
She is first surprised by my courage (I am not a suitor at all given my relationship problems which she has encouraged me to address with a therapist, and I am doing it), then she tells me that she has no intention of shutting the door in my face but question “do you think it’s the case since I’m older than you?”. Then she tells me that this is not the time because she has problems to solve and then – I hope you won’t be disappointed – but for the moment I would like us to stay that way.
I have to be honest at the moment I wasn’t hurt because she answered me in an elegant and genuine way and obviously I can’t say anything if she doesn’t want to, but thinking about it and thinking about it a bit she hurt me.
What do you think? Obviously I’m continuing to hear it because my intent was friendly and I have no intention of interrupting our friendship.