My (24F) bf (22M) is moving into my apartment temporarily, probably 3 months but maybe more. (Bascially there’s some stuff going on with his mental health and finances so we decided it would be a good idea for him to stay with me for the summer while he is off school. He’s even already accepted a summer job in the town I live in!)
I am excited for him to stay with me, but I am a little nervous because I’ve never lived with a partner before. I want to make sure that we start off on the right foot and that we are able to have quality time together AND make sure we don’t get sick of each other lol
Any advice or tips about living together in general would be greatly appreciated!
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Is he good with his finances? Because that’s going to matter when y’all are livin together
Make sure you agree on how to split the bills even if its just temporary. Talk about how you want to handle grocery shopping and chores. Do you like your own snacks? Does he? Do you not like sharing? What chores can he do? (And yes, he has to do *something* to help you). What are his habits? Does he game? Stay up late? Etc. Those are all things you’re going to need to find out, and there’s definitely more than just that, to make living together go smoothly.
Communication right from the start is the most important. You’ll probably find that you both like to live differently in some ways and it’s way easier to settle that from the get go. If something bothers you, that’s okay, but also let him know to talk to you if there’s maybe something he doesn’t like.
The quality time and getting sick of each other is low on the list, the most important thing is being open and honest about how you two live – chores, schedules, being on the same page with those everyday things.
Be flexible (both of you) and learn how to communicate well and compromise.