Am I over reacting? Please anyone would tell me! Thanks!!!
My daughter is age 3. We are interracial family, my husband speaks Russian and I speak mandarins, we communicate in English with accent. That’s why our daughter is late speech, she talks mostly which we don’t understand. And she has deep connection with my husband, once my husband leaves house for work, she will cry badly. We moved to out of town recently, there are limited daycares provided around my home. I finally found a licensed daycare, there is a Latino lady who has two grand children already. We sent our girl on the first day, she is first time to daycare and expose to the new environment without parents. She was start crying after 45 mins nap at 12:45pm. We pick her up at 3pm. The daycare provides told us, our girls has issue that Autism and ADHD, because she cries too loudly to scared other 4 kids. And she doesn’t respond when she calls most time. She keep saying that our daughter spent her too much anergy and attention, she better has a private nanny because she is problem kid. The daycare provider even said that her two grandchildren are multiple languages kids too, they don’t have problems to speak fluent. This was first day of daycare experience, I am a new mom, I don’t have other family here beside my husband here with me, I am seriously confused and lost! Is my kid really that bad and trouble kid? Does kid cry is not normal when they first time to go daycare? What is hit my hard is that the second day when we sent our kid to the daycare, my husband hold the kid in front of me, I grabbed the bag behind them, my husband listened the daycare provider was telling two other kid’s mom about how our kid is problem and issued. When I approached, she stop talking, that’s why I didn’t even know on that moment. We dropped our kid and left, after 10 mins, she called us to pick up the kid, because she has been crying nonstop. We were just staying nearby, we came back quickly. She told us that she couldn’t take care of problems kid, we should told her that she has condition. Actually we didn’t even know our kid is problems kid until she calls it out. She doesn’t want to take our kid back. We got back home, and then my husband told me, he heard she was telling other moms about our kid is so bad and problems. I am so furious and devastated. I could not control my tears out of my eyes! I really want to know, am I over reacting on this? Is she professional to call the kid has been first time and first day to daycare so bad and problem because the kid crying and spent her extra attention? I am totally confused and lost here with this situation, I am feeling that I am the worse mom, because my kid is being tagged as bad and problems, and also I feel frustrated about if my kid has autism. I booked a special list to exam my kid, I feel sorry to doubt my kid. I don’t know whether I wrote my story here to make everyone understand what happened to our family. If there is anything that make you confused, I am so sorry about it. I am just lost and sad. The daycare provider could complain to us about kid and even ask for extra money for it, I would feel totally appreciated it, but she told bad to other moms behind us, I feel hurt. Am I really over reacting on this? Is it just normal thing?