Women who get a lot of attention for their ‘good looks’ and hate it, how do you deal?

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1. Like I am a model. That’s the part we’re I use that for my job.

   In my free time and in bars I hate it and it’s pretty annoying. Especially in America I am the tall European blonde.
   I got used to it and talk about it with my therapist. That’s how I cope. I travel a lot for work and I mostly see people not again. So that helps

2. I openly rail against the patriarchy. I will fight the patriarchy for as long as I live.

   Lately I’ve been wearing a fake engagement ring so that I can exist in public without men thinking I’m trying to get them to pick me.

3. I learned to appreciate it and actually not taking it as a “let me be” as I used to back then. The only thing that I always do is to drew the line right after, I take the compliment and then just stop before it gets any further.

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5. I guess I deal with it by becoming extremely suspicious towards people, especially single men. The only reason they’re even talking to me is not because they find my thoughts interesting, it’s because they want to get with me. So you develop a cold, hard shell.

6. Well in 2020 I shaved my head, so there’s that

7. I think I got used to it and found/learnt my own way to deal with it.

   For example.. I realised I used my hair as “an acceptable excuse” I gave others for staring to myself. As in “people are staring because my hair is really long” was more comforting/less uncomfortable to me as a reason as to why people stare/look at me.

   There are also some “off-putting” and ignoring tactics that I have to be particularly unapproachable… and you just learn quickly how to reject others too.

   And as for mentally.. while may not be particularly healthy, I’m very repulsed but anybody who is attracted to me (before I am), as I know if they “Like” me before I do, it’s definitely just due to looks and I just find that incredibly repulsive.