Men of reddit. Whats your instant green flags in a woman?

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1. A woman without an Instagram account.

2. She’s wearing a hoodie or something 🤣 looking comfy as fuck

3. – offers to split the bill
   – reciprocates my conversation efforts
   – makes me feel sexually wanted (anything from flirty touches to passionate kiss)

4. When they outright tell you that they are unstable and will ruin your life with drama and anarchy. That was a green flag for me apparently. Don’t be me

5. If she’s as engaged in the conversation as much I am and she asks follow up questions. Also, she doesn’t spend all of her time on her phone.

6. When she’s able to laugh at herself and admit when she’s wrong.

7. Sadly, can go more than 30 seconds without needing to use a phone.

8. when she can admit when she’s wrong and makes an effort to do better >>>

9. Genuine kindness towards others.

10. Chemistry. If we gell and vibe easily it’s an instant hit for me

11. Little social media usage, loves to workout, doesn’t like shopping, prefers to stay home than go out.

12. Puts in effort and/or takes initiative

13. Patient with animals

14. Ability to communicate and a passion for something.

15. good relationship with her family

16. Effort. Asking questions about me, remembering stuff I’ve talked to them about and actually caring about what I say.

    Nothing better than a girl who’s visibly shy but still puts in effort.

17. Any signs of empathy gets me hard.

18. Cooking.

19. Accountability

20. Takes accountability for her actions, even when someone else could be partially blamed.

    Appreciates frugality.

    Finds things to be happy about instead of finding things to complain about.

    Is honest even about uncomfortable things. (Note: this doesn’t mean reckless with sharing hurtful opinions)

21. Follows her own expectations of you (not being a hypocrite).

    Takes accountability for her mistakes, and can forgive yours.

22. laughs at my jokes

23. Accountability and self-awareness

24. – genuine kindness. Not the forced stuff, but the kindness that has an energy behind it. Its the biggest green flag EVER.

    – If its date #2, you paid for the first date, and so she INSISTS on paying date 2. Or just pays and doesn’t even ask. Especially if its of similar price range to date 1. Nothing says “we’re on the same level and the same page” like that does.

    – Attention. Shes not looking around, texting, on her phone, zoning out. She’s listening to you. Shes giving thoughtful answers to your questions, shes making genuine effort to help move the conversation along.

    – She has goals and responsibilities. Shows she understands that she may need to be relied upon and what that means. Shows she can take responsibility for things, and it shows that she cares about her future, which if you’re planning on being a part of it, is sort of extremely important.

25. Doesn’t have IG or barely posts on it

    No big fake nails

    No 10lbs of makeup

    Has other hobbies than makeup, travel, food and shopping

26. A good relationship with her parents and family members. Kindness, trustworthiness and courteous to all beings. 👁️✅

27. Can participate in a conversation.

    Shows the ability to think of others.

    Is her own person and doesn’t loose herself in a relationship.

    Sees life as an adventure.

    Curious mind.

    Handles adversity well.

    Likes to hold hands, snuggling, and other non-sexual intimate physical things.

    Shows and gives trust.

    Shows she wants me to be happy, not use me to make her happy.

28. Just a kind heart in general.