The fact that she reads erotic is fine, I mean I watch porn, but I also love to see her body that gets me off, sexting her would get me off. However she never wants to sext with me so why does reading about some other fictional guy turn her on? Why not me too?
I also bought a vibrator for us to use during sex however we never use it and if I try to use it on her she wants to quit long before she cums. However, she did tell me she always uses it when she masturbates and I don’t understand, why not with me? She also does not really want me to put in energy to make her orgasm during sex and always stops me when I finger her or eat her out etc. I feel left out, I don’t understand it can anybody explain
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In her erotica novels she can make the characters look and sound any way she wants and buzz herself to climax. It’s safe, fun, and she’s in a no judgement zone. I think many women, not yours or anybody else in particular, are self conscious about expressing themselves like that. Pleasuring herself in front of you might be embarrassing and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t take it too personally.
If she stop you, I suspect, is because she don’t want to scream. Ask her.
Just let her like what she likes. Ur making her uncomfortable by focusing too much on your own emotional needs rather than just literally fulfilling hers. And you make your own worst fears about your sex with her come true, because you don’t just help her with what she clearly likes.
I assume it’s because girls are often less about visuals than guys, and erotica gives room for fantasizing and is more subtle. The rest sounds to me like she prefers not to focus on her pleasure, which doesn’t mean she doesn’t enjoy what you’re doing. You just have different ways of getting off.
Edit: From what you wrote, it doesn’t sound like you are left out.
Why can’t you discuss this matter with her? Also, maybe read the erotica she reads and try some of the tricks on her..maybe it’ll get her off?