My boyfriend has some gross habits

My boyfriend is honestly so gross sometimes. He has a perpetually stuffy nose and I have found his boogers on walls, in the shower, on hand towels etc. whenever I hear him blow his nose I get triggered.

This morning we are in bed sleeping and I hear him blow his nose like 6 times. Loud as hell etc. I turned around on the last one bc it was annoying and there is nothing visible that he’s blowing his nose into. So I asked him where the fuck he’s blowing his nose and he says his hand…

He has been blowing his nose and wiping his boogers god only knows where. On the blanket we both sleep with? The sheets?? I am sick and disgusted thinking about this.

He’s M33 I’m F26. We’ve been together a bit over a year. Probably approaching 1.5 years, however we just moved in together 3 weeks ago.

I knew he was gross, but I just can’t do this. It makes me so repulsed that I can hardly fathom having sex etc. Especially since there are probably boogers on out fucking bed.

Every time I bring this up he gets defensive and says he can’t help his nose is stuffy etc.

Part of this was just venting, but what would you guys do if this was your partner.

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  3. Imagine if he was single. Jesus christ. This is basic hygiene and respect. What are you doing??

  4. I don’t think I would stay with someone like this. I don’t think anyone *should*.

  8. Just when I thought I read it all. Did anyone not teach him growing up? You also shouldn’t have to tell him to blow his nose into a tissue. He needs to get allergy pills and nasal sprays. Come on now, that’s just….smh sigh.

  9. Good lord, girl.

    >what would you guys do if this was your partner

    LEAVE.

    Choose better next time.

  11. That’s the beauty of dating. You have no legally binding contract to stay with them if they turn out to be fucking psychopaths or whatever this is.

  13. One side of my nose is stuffy most of the time also. I keep Kleenex next to my bed so I can blow it when/if needed and I have a little trash can also. This is so disgusting 🤮

  14. > Every time I bring this up he gets defensive and says he can’t help his nose is stuffy etc.

    I have bad allergies to the point where even things like Allegra only reduces symptoms. I still don’t put my boogers all over the place.

    He can’t help his stuffy nose, but he can help what he does with the boogers.

  15. My ex husband had IBS-D meaning he basically had explosive diarrhea multiple times a day. I can’t tell you how many times I’d go in the bathroom and they’re would be literal shit everywhere… on the toilet seat, the sink, the floor, the mat… and I swear I, an adult, had to spend half my time telling him, another grown as adult, to clean up his mess. I fell completely out of love with him and towards the end I wouldn’t even touch or talk to him, the very sight of him made me want to vomit. Get out while you can!

  16. I have a constantly stuffy nose. I have tissues in my car, my husbands truck, beside my chair in the living room and at my bedside. There’s no excuse for this. That’s so disgusting!

  17. Nah. IMO, if someone is willing to do stuff like this, there are other red flags lurking around. Also, imagine having kids with this person and him modeling these habits? Absolutely not. If he’s unwilling to up his hygiene game, I’d be out.

  18. My ex was like that and I was with him for FOUR YEARS. If I do much as moved my hand in the middle of the night and made it seem like it was awake at all, he took that as an opportunity to blow his nose multiple times, even with nothing coming out of his nose. It would trigger me too. We would be on the phone talking, I’d be saying something, and he would interrupt me to blow his nose. God there’s a bunch of reasons I hated being with this man, but this post just reminded me of the most constant thing that I literally could not stand.

  19. You’re THREE WEEKS IN to living together and he is THIRTY THREE blowing BOOGERS EVERYWHERE!?

    Abort. Get the FUCK OUT! You can’t fix this!

    If it’s this bad after the weeks, what other horrifying habits do you think you’ll find in a few months if you stay!?

  20. How have you not noticed this before? And you moved in? immediately move out. disgusting

  22. There’s your first mistake sis. If you know somebody is gross, why would you move in with him?? A grown man with extremely low personal hygiene standards is not going to change, he’s way past that.

  25. We really need an automatic “Don’t Date Disgusting Men” bot for all these posts jfc

  26. For everyone else reading: let this be a lesson on why it’s a good idea to live with someone before getting married (in my opinion)

    For OP: You’ve learned you’re incompatible. You can either leave or try to change him. I’d take the first option in this extreme scenario

  27. Sweetie he’s 33 years old and has lived through a pandemic, yet knowingly and frequently covers objects with thick layers of his snot. Objects he knows full well other people will come in to contact with.

    Why do you want this man? I work with small children and wouldn’t let a 4yo get away with that kind of behaviour, why would you tolerate it from a grown ass man? He can’t control how much his nose runs but he can control where the snot goes when it leaves his face! His behaviour isn’t just gross, it’s downright repulsive and the most disgusting part is that it’s entirely purposeful on his part.

    Raise your standards.

  28. Girl… If you think he’s gross asf why TF are you with him still 💀 he’s probably only gonna get more gross to you, especially since he’s already a good bit older then you

    Edit: omfg girl I just looked through your history and comments and you seriously cannot tell me you’re doing all this for this guy 😭😭 quit trying to be his mother, he’s 34 ffs, you have so many better opportunities then a man who is “self employed” and who you had to MAKE get healthcare! Don’t walk, RUN. This man will never change.

  29. I’m am begging y’all… just be single. This is so nasty. A YEAR?! Girl. Please be serious.

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