I was chatting to about 6 women in the last 1-2 months who agreed on a date but then basically ghosted me for no reason. I tried different approaches:
\- asking her out shortly after matching
\- talking to her for a longer period (long and rich conversations), then she ghosted me (I became a bit needy to be fair)
\- tried something in-between the above two (building up a rapport but avoid trying to get to know her over text) and they just disappeared when I asked them out.
Once I make it to the date, I am super confident and I don’t care if it doesn’t work out, but I can’t make it that far and it’s VERY annoying, and there is a part of me which suggests that there is something I must be doing wrong.
About me: I am OK looking (7/10), have a good paying job, financially stable, have an interesting life (travelling, doing extreme sports, etc.)
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Read “Atomic Attraction”. Books by Leil Lowndes are good too.
That’s an excessively high rate of rejection. My guess is you come off as needy and chicks bail on that.
That’s a lot of people in that amount of time. Are you desperate for companionship?
I am not desperate for companionship, but my matches also typically cancel day of or ghost. It’s a dating world issue, to put it nicely.
Op do you have like an example of the conversation before they ghosted you ?
What types of conversations are you having? What type of dates are you asking them out on?
How do you ask them out?
I had a few guys propose date locations 30+ min away from me, or tell me a location instead of asking for my input on it.
I unmatched all those.