im 19 and i literally went from having friends to having like 1 friend. if im being honest, it’s mainly my fault. i fell in a really bad place in 2021 after graduating highschool, i didn’t get into my universities, didn’t do well in school and had to upgrade my courses, horrible self esteem. this year has been way better, deleted all my instagrams and opened one but i never use it.
i finally got into my university and im excited, but im really scared just nervous to enter into uni. i feel like the same thing will happen & i am not a very social person…this effected me a lot in highschool didn’t have that many friends. and idk, i think i need advice on people who been thru university and how the social life or & how to not loose friends in general.
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1 friend? How is that 1 friend relative to others and why did that 1 friend stick around? If it’s for reasons that can’t be explained by cynicism then you should really place a lot of value on that 1 friend.
I remember a time when I finally got back to playing games after a few months break. Only 1 person reached out of the many many friends I had before. Even the friend that I used to contact nearly everyday did not reach out. It’s a shame that mentally speaking I couldn’t accept that 1 friend who reached out but from now on I will really really value those type of people.
It’s actually good you lost those friends. An easy filter for friendships is who sticks around when you are at your lowest. I think one of the ways to not lose friends is to find ways to bond with them and to use languages which try to unify them to you. Like “brothers” instead of “friends”. There are many ways to bond people to you but I don’t want to list them all. Some of it is just outside our control.