So I (M23) recently asked “when are you ready for dating” and lots of the advice was that you truly never “ready”. It’s changes and varies from person to person. I decided that I should stop worrying so much and try my best. But recently I came across a social media post about people not wanting to be someone’s first relationship and that it’s a red flag to never have had a relationship. A lot of the comments were agreeing (I know social media isn’t representative of real life, but still the comments seemed to be overwhelming supportive).
This got me thinking, what should inexperienced people do? I’ve never dated for many reasons, some mental health and others more external. Am I just fucked because I prioritized other things and didn’t pursue romantic relationships. Should this convo be avoided with a potential partner? I feel like if things get serious this will eventually be brought up. Is this just another shitty reality we gotta live with? I won’t lie, seeing this post made me feel kinda shitty and less desirable.
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Idk, I know a lot of people who are walking red flags, most of them have been in relationships before but have baggage or were in toxic relationships and learned toxic dynamics and think they are normal… you’re a clean sheet, lack experience but also are baggage free which is a good thing.
You’ll have to learn relationship dynamics and all, but it’s better than assuming you already know them and getting things wrong, you must be willing to be a fool in order to become a master ahahah and I think you’re aware of your inexperience and are willing to learn so I wouldn’t consider it a red flag at all.