So my sneaky link and I have been hooking up for the past 3ish weeks. I got a IUD we are only sleeping with each other and are both clean we both got tested.
Thing is I usually only blow him for like 5-10mins he is a long lasting guy but my jaw starts to hurt/lock up after like 8-10mins or so. Dont get me wrong I have finished him a couple times from just head but otherwise I always go raw with him to finish him off. I wanted to know if this is frustrating if you cant finish most times with head cuz your partner cant go longer? He goes for a while when we fuck and he always gets riled up when I blow him but I just cant go long enough he gets close then he finishes in me.
After sleeping together for a bit I have been able to go longer without my jaw feeling uncomfortable but I feel kinda bad when I cant get him to finish in my mouth. Does being able to go raw after make up for it? Or is it still frustrating either way if it is frustrating.
He is a great guy and hasnt said anything or shown any signs to me about it but pleasure but if I can make it better for him I wanna be able to do it longer sooner lol and I am curious on how guys feel when this happens so. Thanks for any replys 🙂
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Ask him. It’s a really simple convo to have. You might be surprised by what he has to say.
And regardless, since we’re not him, what we tell you isn’t useful especially when you can, again, just ask him.
Five minutes is a lot better than 0 minutes!
>Does being able to go raw after make up for it?
You bet! I estimate being able to unload in you raw would more than solve the physical tension problem and “make up for it”. Head is nice and a great turn on, but I don’t think there’s any problem, especially since finishing in you is surely a good conclusion from his side. Hopefully you’re getting off as much as you want too!
It’s understood jaws get tired, so I think you’re totally fine with going until it starts to feel not so good and then switching up to sex. Nothing to worry about here.
I guess one other option if you want to give him the experience of finishing orally from time to time is start of with BJ, switch to PIV until he’s close, then maybe switch back to oral when he’s close to cumming. Not because it’s necessary or anything… just if you want to mix it up for novelty once in a while.
Iono ¯ _(ツ)_/¯
Personally I’ve never came from a girl giving me head and it doesnt feel as good as pussy or anal – its just a lovely visual stimulus for me.
Honestly, depends on what the endgame is. My wife will give me head for like a couple of minutes because she doesn’t generally finish me to completion. Typically sex ends with me cumming inside her anyway, so unless she’s setting out to make me cum from oral (which isn’t a regular thing), I’m fine going without head entirely. Maybe a minute or two to warm me up is fine.
If you want to meet in the middle, try using your hands more to give your mouth a break. If your jaw is the issue, maybe use just your tongue while your hand does most of the work. Then switch back to your mouth when he gets close.
for me i like just enough head to get hard, unless my wife is planning on blowing me to completion, 3-5 minutes is more than enough.
Short blowjobs are awful but I can only speak for nyself
It’s not about the time that she is down there. Is about how enthusiastic she is.
On one hand, too short a time is deeply frustrating. On the other hand, 5-10 minutes is a good amount of time. It’s not like you’re going down for 5-10 seconds.
Yes
Use your hand more. Save your mouth. Use your mouth for the bit of extra.
Most guys would be happy with what you do. You can also do the reverse if you feel he enjoys finishing in your mouth, as in go raw first and finish with your mouth when he is close. He may enjoy that too once in a while if he is really into receiving head.
Haven’t got one in 13 years lol