So the person I’m dating with brings from time to time questions about my past sex life, mostly questions like how many times I could have sex in a row, or if I were able to make any of my past girlfriends squirt and things like that, and that inevitable makes me feel uncomfortable and comparing myself with her former boyfriends. I guess it shouldn’t make me feel insecure about it, but it kinda does and it sucks, specially when she points out her past amazing sex experiences.
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I don’t think what she’s doing is helpful in any way. Not many people want to know that much in depth about past sexual experiences. I don’t give past partners a second thought when I’m with someone else, so I would tell her that.
When your together, not sexually, just tell her that you don’t want to think about your past sexual experiences, only the sexual experiences you’re having with her, because that’s what excites you. Maybe ask if there’s something she wants you to do, because it sounds like she’s asking ‘Am I better than the others?’, ‘Are you more or less attracted to me than others?’ rather than what she’s saying.
Tell her, in a calm matter, that you don’t want to know, it’s a turn off. If she plays the ‘my past shouldn’t matter’ card, then flip that on her and say, ‘well then why do we need to talk about it?’
I feel you man, women overshare that stuff a lot, the truth is, they ARE a little ashamed, and seek validation. I’ve learned to let it roll off but I shut it down early, I just don’t wanna know girl lololol.