(M25) Does anyone else think when someone is being “overtly nice” it doesn’t feel genuine and off-putting? I work around mostly military dudes and it’s good to hear someone sat good job but it’s just off-putting if I hear it to much. I like a little teasing and bull* around you.

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  1. It really depends on the person and the situation.

    If it doesn’t come across as weird in the situation and/or the person does it often, then it’s relatively normal, but if something like this never actually happens and the person is never really in the mood, you can find it weird.

  2. I grew up with friends who were always super openly critical and rude to each other, not in a mean way but it’s just how they were. Recently I have transitioned to a new friend group that is pretty much the opposite of that. Because I was used to being criticized and insulted constantly, I thought that they also had criticisms that they were just not telling me. Because of this I didn’t know how they actually felt about me, and I got insecure and started projecting negative thoughts I had about myself onto them, which negatively affected my self esteem. It wasn’t until I met them in person and hung out with them for a while that I realized that they are actually just genuinely very kind and caring people. It was very heartwarming.

  3. I’m super nice though I can also be sarcastic! But I can’t help it. I even have resting nice face 😔

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