I’m becoming so unhappy in my relationship. Overall we are a strong couple and we get on really well and he takes care of me like crazy, I’m always a priority. Sex is really great even after 3 years. He doesn’t follow or like posts from other girls. He always takes me with him, his friends and family love me. It’s just that I have a problem with snooping and it breaks my heart when I see that he looks up nudes with actresses after watching a movie or he lies about his masturbation habits or what he looks up and does online (there is no texting or talking to other women involved here). He doesn’t know I snoop and I just have this compulsive mess in my head to do it so I can see who he is and if he is who he pretends.
I’m breakimg my own heart, I know. I’m just so scared of another failed relationship. I found spam emails from dating sites and obviously I’m paranoid now. I’m also scared his behaviour eill make him cheat. I just hate it so much I can’t stop. Without seeing all that bulllshit I would trust him and I’m stuck between thinking he’s a liar and has no self control over anything and that I’m a bitch for snooping and that he has his own privacy and can watch whatever he wants if he makes me happy and is a good bf.
I see so many things now that stress me out for my future, like the fact he’s not ambitious, he doesn’t really have hobbies, he spends his day unproductively, he’s using college as an excuse, but doesn’t care for it at all and hardly goes (he went to colege for his parents, he’s more of a practical hands work and he teaches himself history and stiff he cares about frim youtube). He is a family guy and has a great relationship with his mom (ehich gives me hope). Rn I think he’s kinda depressed and doesn’t lnow what to do with his life. And I’m in med school annd he’s sweet and cooks amazing food so I can study and he cleans, but I feel held back emotionally spiritually and everything. Help. I just wish someone would tell me what I need to do to be happy.
My plan is to wait until we’ll come back from Work and Travel (we’re leaving soon), see if it helps him be more productive and not be so depressed and try to also work on myself and my confidence and see if my confidence was the problemfor me starting to resent him. Is this relationship worth saving? Yes or no? I feel so bad because it seems he’s trying so hard to make me happy.
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This is a mess. Stop snooping jfc. He can masturbate. That’s a thing everyone does. Looking up celebrity nudes? That’s not a big deal.
If he’s depressed support him through that and be there for him. If he hates college encourage him to do a trade.
There’s a lot of things here where you need to be a better partner and think what you can do for him not just what he does for you.
You’re both very young that’s for sure but if you want this to work you actually have to put work into it.
One thing I know is that you must do things that will make you happy. Think about if the relationship will be good long term. Think about if you’re just doing this because of history. ultimately it’s up to you. Best of luck.
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