I (24f) need advice on my bf (25m) lack of intimacy.

We’ve been with each other for just over two years. Before we met I had always had a high sex drive.. had 1 friends with benefits that literally lives across my halls and would have sex with every other night. When i stopped that situation I wanted to get something more serious so 1 vear later i met my bf and literally on our first day meeting we had sex.. for the first year the sex was great… but felt very one sided, I always initiated.

He’s not good at initiating sex at all, like terrible… he makes it awkward an almost child like approach to it and it turns me off a lot, he’ll just reach for my boob out of no where like it feels weird. Also during sex he tends to get cramps that then causes he’s penis to go soft… then we basically have to start all over… it’s like been this for over a vear now.

In 2023 we’ve had sex around 10 times… in the past 2 going on 3 months we’ve haven’t had sex because he’s not healthy… won’t look after himself and just remains sick.. he’s ankle isn’t great so i end up doing all the work and don’t end up enjoying it. I’ve been on my period during some weeks… I really look after him, give him tea, rub he’s ankles, keep the place tidy, book him appointments.. to try make him health quicker.

The lack of initiation, the lack of even craving or wanting sex is really making me feel like he’s not sexually attracted to me… and it’s kindof taking a toll on my insecurity more than usual. Also a couple of weeks ago I mentioned I was extremely horny to him and he said ah I got work in the morning so do you.. it’s like wtf am I do. i’m the type that get very annoyed when their horny and can’t get some so i woke up just horny and upset. we work different hours and different days too so finding a
“right time” makes it even worse.

I don’t like the idea of watching porn when i have a partner too, just seems a little disrespectful to me. My bf is honestly such a good person, the care and understanding he has for me and the people he loves is unmatched, i’ve honestly never met anyone like him. So i’m kindof stuck at what to do in this situation.

I need advice…

TLDR: bf is perfect in every other way but sexual intimacy is lacking quite a bit.