like the title says my BF talked to me the other day what I think of letting him pee on me.
We usually don’t have plain vanilla sex, but also nothing I would really push in the bdsm section, but inbetween. There are some “Good Girl”s and spanking, a little choking here and there but nothing really extreme so I first thought it was a more hypothetically question, so I honestly said I don’t know and I guess I found it weird.
He then told me he would like to try it once I visit him (we have a very long distance relationship now since he had to move due to his job a few months ago) I talked a little about what basic hygenic and ground rules I have, like only in the shower, only when he drank a lot during the day and his pee is basically just water and so on, he agreed with me on all of that.
My issue now is, I don’t know why he suddenly wants to try it. Like I said we do have “harder” sex but nothing overly SM on that regard and he can’t really explain why he wants to try it except for him being “curious” about it, which is fine, but I can’t entirely shake of the feeling that I would feel humiliated and sad by it in the aftermath… and he often has a hard time understanding my feelings when I am sad and he is excited… he always takes good care of me but he just can’t process other feelings very good, I guess that’s also the reason why he doesn’t know why he actually wants to try it.
So my questions is: What was your feeling why you wanted to try that? Was it dominance over your partner? Something else? Also what do you do after wards? just leave it like it is and have sex, wash it down first?
Also for clarification: he isn’t pushing me at all to do it! But if it’s something he wants to try and I feel comfortable with it I am willing to tag along. That’s why I would like to hear what you guys/girls have for a feeling while doing it or let your partner do it.
Thanks a lot!
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It is not suddent. He just made his mind on asking you about this. After you have some general rules established but go for it. I do not believe he wants to make you sad or degrade you per say. I would have an open mind and just gone it a try. You never know if you’ll like it. For my part I have tried it with my partner. I believe it is something really intimate between two people and I do actually love her. I want everything of her. It is not dominance here, nor romantic as we know the term.
You’re call obviously, but there are so many intimate things a couple can share (many including different bodily fluids) urinating just feels off. It’s not like saliva or semen which all tie into sex acts. It’s the bodies way of dispensing with waste. I dunno.
I can’t advise based on personal experience, only because it was me (M) who first asked to receive, we started slow, but she was into it and its been awesome ever since. We did try me peeing on her once or twice, but that didn’t do it for either of us. I definitely endorse your plan for well-hydrated. And make sure he goes once before, then drinks more.
What worries me is you think you might feel humiliated or sad after. That tells me this isn’t a turn on for you, and I just don’t think that particular act should be something only one partner tolerates for the other. And if he can’t “read the room (or tub)” as you suggest… that’s gonna make it worse.
I know you’re long distance now, and won’t see him as often… but maybe compromise? How about you offer to play with it while he pees first, aim it. That way you control when and how much you get. May not work if this is a Dom kink for him, but idk just a thought. Good luck with whatever you decide.
I agree with the previous poster that this did not “come up suddenly” its quite possible its been in the que for a awhile. Of course his definition of suddenly could be different than yours. Anyways, it’s definetly something the Mrs and I tried and while we do enjoy it, it isn’t something we normally do. First off, it is NOT as easy as it sounds. Performance anxiety prevents most from whipping it out and just releasing. I would try to stay open about it but him not wanting to try the opposite is a little disconcerting. If he wanted to feel the experience, he should do the full experience. Would he think about a compromise. Maybe he could watch as you pee on yourself or in your panties? Maybe hold his penis while he pees? That would determine if it’s for humiliation and degradation play or not. And if it is for that, I would highly recommend declining.
Choking cannot be done safely.