I’ve been chatting to this guy I matched with online for about a couple weeks now. We haven’t met in person before. He has invited me over on Saturday because hes having a BBQ with his friends & a little party.
Since I’ve not met this guy in person is it bad idea for me to go there first time meeting his with all his buddies there?
In my personal experience I’ve always met people for a causal drink at a pub / bar for a first date.
We are getting a long really well and I don’t doubt that we will in person too, so I’m not worried about it being awkward.
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I wouldn’t go.
It’s a little weird but not completely unheard of to have a first date with third parties involved. You could bring along a friend of your own, or tell them you would feel more comfortable if you met 1 on 1 someplace public first. If he’s an understanding guy and he’s really into you, he’ll make acommendations.
I would recommend meeting a person in a private residence for a first date, even if it’s a party. If you do, I would bring a friend and let people know where and when you’re going.
If you’re comfortable but that’s not a common first date and is very risky. If I was super interested I would ask if I can bring my friends since it seems like a casual hang out and I would not go alone. But personally I would not go and suggest getting a drink before or the next day and if they refuse and push for this I would not date them
I would set up a facetime before, to see if you vibe well
Not a good idea to go, even with one friend. If you do go, I’d probably bring a few friends (male and female) ones not enough to keep you safe, drive there, bring your only drinks and only stay for one. I wouldn’t eat anything there either. If he was really interested in you he’d want to get to know you one on one first.