Hello 30+ daters. My previous relationship of 8 years ended about a year ago. Now I’m trying my swing at dating again.. but now I’m in my 30s! How did that happen?
Hoping to have some eyes on my profile before I send it off the the wild world of OLD. Link below. Let me know if you have any suggestions!
Thanks for all the tips everyone!
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You’re attractive, smart, with a great sense of humor so you definitely draw me in. For a stronger profile, I would suggest to change 2 of the prompts to things that are less joke-y, perhaps you can add your idea of a fun date and something about hobbies.
All of your answers are equally funny so I’d just keep one and choose 2 more serious prompts to add depth to your profile so you come off more well-rounded. I love a sense of humor but it won’t be enough to sustain a relationship through life’s challenges so I would want to see other angles of your personality.
A couple of things that would make me swipe left immediately:
1. You’re really cute, but your main picture looks like a stock photo.
2. I don’t know if it’s just a me problem but I can’t stand when people don’t capitalize words when they type.
3. Don’t put yourself down when describing who you are.
Also, who are you? What are you into? Add that.
Otherwise pretty decent profile.
I don’t think you should insult yourself in your bio and your prompts are all essentially blank. Otherwise looks good.
Are you looking for casual? The jokes-only profile makes it seem that way. You’ll probably get some hits based on the cute pictures, but if you’re genuinely seeking a relationship, I think it needs more substance to show what life with you could be like.
You’re goodlooking, but your answers are too self-deprecating and “casual” (for the lack of a better word). Everything reads like a joke.
I swipe left on profiles without height. I agree with others, your personality is not present. Not everyone knows about engineers and I wouldn’t care enough to respond with interest. I also hate the “through the chest” comment, I see it every four profiles. It does nothing and it’s overused.
In addition to what everyone else said, being in a relationship for 8 years (without marriage?) will come across as a major red flag to some women.
Hot damn, super fly.
Edit: “he’s ok i guess” genuinely made me smile. Juxtaposed with how attractive you are, it makes you seem humble and legit. But I can see why it would be a good idea to toot your own horn more. Definitely leave at least one joke. You’re funny. And hot. Go get em tiger.
As a straight dude. I appreciate your profile.
Quickest way through my heart made me chuckle.
Based on the comments realizing this approach probably end up attracting other dudes.
I would totally swipe right on you because you seem chill and fun, but I would have no idea what to message you with after that. You don’t give any information to go off of unless my opener is “hey”
You’re really cute but I’m not a huge fan of this profile. It’s a little too ‘trying to be cool/snarky’ for me. I see soooooo many profiles like this from cute guys and honestly the lack of effort is a turnoff. Your prompts don’t say anything about you or what you’re looking for in a relationship and I think you should either answer the prompts meaningfully (you can still be humorous!) or chose different ones.
I found it really funny and you are very good looking so you should do really well!
The ribcage joke, I’ve seen it more than 200 times 🙁
You’re a good looking guy.
Don’t call yourself boring
Make it sound like you’re excited to be here. Like you really want to meet cool people and do fun things. Be warm.
So many men come off like “I just made a profile bc I was bored, don’t really care if I ever get a date.” Be better than those losers.
My only comment is that Miles is a cutie.
I love your dog!
Lol you seem to have very dry and sarcastic humour which I personally would swipe on but I understand how it may be boring to some.
So I’d more about what you like to and who you are. What’s your favourite meal? What’s your favourite show? What do you do on your spare time? Those types of things !
I honestly get the sense that you made it probably quite close to how you might have had it before your last relationship started in your early 20’s.
Share more about yourself in your profile, take time to build your prompt answers out a bit so there are things ppl can connect with and converse on. Full, complete sentences on profile bios and prompts are a green flag, especially in our 30’s.
I like that you’re a little self-deprecating, but the multiple put-downs becomes too much. Plus I feel like I don’t know anything about you (other than you’re an engineer) or what you’re looking for. It’s all very surface. You’re very cute but I would swipe left because you don’t tell me anything about yourself at all and from this I have no idea whether we’re compatible or even looking for the same thing.
I’d date you lol
I think you’re cute! But I would swipe left, it would be a little too jokey and unserious for me. Maybe keep in mind that so many guys have a profile full of jokes and not a lot of substance and nothing engaging, you can stand out from the crowd! What are you looking for in a good match? What’s your life like, your family, how do you like to spend your time? Speak about your life like it’s something you enjoy
I would swipe right… but I’m British and I’m all for a bit of self-deprecating humour. So, depending on your audience, you might want to change that up 😊
The ribcage comment is as cliche as the “I’ll fall for you: if you push me” You could be Brad Pitt and I’d swipe left if you wrote that.
Referring to yourself as “boring” won’t help you get matches. But you could mention being stable, responsible, reliable, etc. Assuming that you are indeed all those things!
Who are you? What do you care about? What do you value?
When you take new pics, try not to take them in front of a white / grey background. You’re wearing white or a grey suit in front of it and it just looks bland.
Add that with words like “boring” and “he’s ok, I guess” and it just seems like there’s not too much to learn about you.
You gotta give people a reason to swipe right on you and yet, this profile is merely just ok…Put your best foot forward, you only get one first impression.
Seems like you’re trying too hard to be random
Drop the engineers boring thingy. No need to blame the profession. Otherwise pics are cute!
Just came on to say you won’t be single for long, you are extremely good looking, I would get rid of the kinda statements, be more realistic, what goals, plans you have, what your looking for as well as describing hobbies, what qualities you have etc.
As a woman, I like your profile as it is. Good luck!
I’m a hetero guy, but I’d swipe if I was on the other team(s).
Besides of what’s been said, I’d change the last picture… maybe you have one from a social event.
I love your profile! Your photos are good and I laughed a few times with your prompts. I enjoy self-deprecating jokes, but I noticed it’s not something always well received in the US culture. Maybe they equate self-deprecating = low self-esteem? Anyways, that’s not how I read it at all.
The only one I’d change is the ribcage one. Maybe you can make that one a bit more serious? 🙂
Good luck!
Move to my area I’ll date you, also 33 hahah (also mabuhay 😏😂)
How do you get to the link?