I (18m) became friends with this woman (19f) who I met through a training event for my college around a year ago. We talked all the time, we had tons in common and we developed a deep emotional connection.
We didn’t date because she wasn’t interested in a relationship and I understood that because they can be very stressful and we were both focused on college. I was romantically interested in her, but she wasn’t intimate with anyone and so there were no issues.
And so over the past year I fell deeply in love with her. And it was all fine until today she told me she was planning on hooking up with a guy friend she knew. This effects me way too much and so I decided to break it off. I know it’s not healthy or fair to her, but for reasons I won’t get into, I’m not extremely emotionally mature and I knew it would break me. How do I heal and get my emotions in a state where this won’t effect me this way again?
TLDR: woman I’m in love with hooking up with other guy. I broke off friendship, how do I heal and grow emotionally so I don’t feel like I need to break it off again?
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I think the best thing you could do is obviously give yourself time but also take this time to really drill into your brain that keeping someone really close after they reject you is typically a very poor decision. You don’t have to cut them off forever, but you definitely want to give yourself some space to get over the crush and shy away from trying to talk more/hangout more. Crushes that you starve, fade but crushes that you feed, grow.