Sorry if this is a long post, but I want to ask for your advice about my situation here.
My 6-month situations just ended pretty badly. He always said that he saw me as the one that he was going to marry and that he never experienced what we had before. And I did feel that he was telling the truth and he really loved me.
Right from the start, he admitted to me that the previous relationship started from boredom and that’s why he’s so guilty about how he basically “tricked” his ex the whole time.
But while we were in a situationship, he still constantly engages with her (reacting to her comments, liking her social posts, etc.) but the worst thing was he didn’t hesitate to pick up her calls even though we were going out together. So yes, he knows I’m fully aware of all of this. His explanation & solution at the time were handled with his ex first, then came running & apologized, begged for my forgiveness, saying that he felt guilty about what he did to his ex, and that’s why he needed to be there when she needed him in order for her to move on.
A few months went by, we were on & off a few times. Just when I thought we can put all of that behind us, he started saying that he felt guilty about what he put me through and that “I deserve so much better. You’re still the one for me but I’m not for you”. In our last conversation, I asked him whether he want to end this, he said he needed more time and he didn’t want to lose what we have and asked me to be more patient with him. I said no, and the last thing he said was “Okay, let’s end this, I can’t do this to you anymore”.
A few hours after that, I was in a hospital (not self-harm or anything, just felt quite weird and wanted to be where someone can do a checkup on me). I tried to call him, but nope, he didn’t pick up the phone, while he clearly didn’t do the same thing with his ex, this just made me feel like he also tricked me into this situationship with him and that he played me all along then dropped me like I was nothing.
It’s obviously hard to move on, but how do you heal while being so angry with that person and even with yourself for allowing all that bullshit to happen in the first place?
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Ok. It’s called a situation-ship for a reason. Yeah, he shouldn’t have got all lovey dovey with u but u were aware of his two faced nature.
I know it’s cruel but never give ur heart to a person unless they commit. Don’t get into a situation ship unless you can mentally handle it. Protect your emotions because ppl out there won’t. Hope you heal and move on. Try to remember what a jerk he is and that he’s just a liar. And him and his ex r messed up if they r still texting as more than just friends. You got yourself out of a huge mess.