(I’m 22F if anyone is gonna ask)
My vibrator that I had for 3-4 years is officially dead. It won’t turn on after 2 nights and 1 full day of charging, it just hums like it wants to turn on and then shuts off and the light blinks.
I intend on going to the local adult store since I can’t order online since I live with my parents and I’m worried about them finding the box. I am a little nervous since I’ve never been in one alone before. I’ve only been to one once and that was with my ex.
I will go anyways despite my fears because I know it will make me happy after I go and this is something I need but I’m still nervous. I feel like being alone would be embarrassing even tho most likely no one will care.
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I would t worry. Trust me, a girl going in to buy a vibrator isn’t even going to register to the worker. They probably deal with some really weird shit so a normal customer interaction is probably going to, at most, give them a sense of relief.
You got this. They don’t care and will welcome you. If you find a female worker, you can even ask for advice as they are very well informed.
No one else at the adult store is going to care that you’re at the adult store, I promise lol
They r so nice at the local sex shop lol they always point me in the right direction and are super helpful. Don’t be nervous
Ask a friend to go with you. Everyone has a ‘weird’ friend (or even a friend of a friend) that won’t mind going with you, just so your comfortable going into a new environment.
I’m usually the friend that gets asked in my friend circle 😂
BTW, there’s nothing to be nervous about. Most adult stores have females on staff which make shopping ‘easier’.
If your super nervous, maybe give them a call before going in to see if your local has a friendly ‘point of contact’/staff member you can ask for by name.
Being a single person in an adult store is no different than being a single person shopping for underwear in a store. You won’t be judged or hit on.
You’ve got this!
Edit: spelling
I’ve been in my local store multiple times, and it’s usually staffed by females who aren’t judgemental. You may want to ask if you can throw the trash away with them, or just find a public trash can so your parents don’t find it.
My husband and I frequent a few stores we like and there are a LOT of individuals in there. More than couples typically. I will say that *WITHOUT EXCEPTION* when I’ve gone in solo, the workers have always treated me well, spent time on my questions and been very helpful. Never felt uncomfortable or weirded out.
It’s ok. Don’t worry. Those workers aren’t bothered by that. They see nervous new faces all the time.
Are you familiar with Amazon Lockers? If there is one near you, that is the most convenient way to have something delivered to you discreetly.
Do your parents open your mail?
I usually buy my thing online, if it from a decent brand there should be no problem.
Go during the day, know what you want and call the store to make sure it’s in stock. Guys will notice you but if you’re just in and out I don’t think anyone will bother you. If they have peep shows in the back whatever you do don’t go in. Or that big retailer that starts with an A ships to their own boxes but I don’t know how that works. Also according to Marjorie Taylor Greene Target is bringing on the end of civilization by selling vibrators also
It’s totally normal to feel nervous/embarrassed about going to a sex store! I do too sometimes. Just remember that everyone who works there is OK with sex and wouldn’t work there if they were bashful/judgmental about it. I’m sure working with people looking for vibrators is what they do most, as those are the products that can be difficult for many to understand, if that helps.
If there is a feminist sex shop in your area, I highly recommend. Give it a google. If you happen to be in Chicagoland I can’t speak highly enough of [Early to Bed](https://www.early2bed.com/). They also ship discreetly.
I don’t think you should be nervous at all, but if you’re really uncomfortable with going to an adult store, you could just go to Walmart. They now sell sex toys! It blew my mind when I first heard that but I swear it’s true. My husband just bought my most recent vibrator there and it’s surprisingly great quality. They have a pretty broad selection too. Might be worth a trip for you.
it might be disappointing to note that absolutely no one in the adult store who even notice that a young woman is in there alone to buy a vibrator.
So take your time when you visit the store. in fact it is a wonderful opportunity to shake off some of your own inhibitions.
so go in there for 4 weeks in a row. don’t buy anything but just ask questions on the many toys that they have and spend an hour in the store during each visit just looking around.
and one month later – you will come out happier and a lot more confident.
Worked in an adult store for 6 years. Solo people buy sex toys every day all day. The only thing the worker will note (if they are like me) is if any solo males are being weird to you then they’ll ask him to leave.
Don’t worry, I prefer going alone because then I can take my time. The shop is better then online imo cause you can feel the material, strenght of vibration and so on. Just enjoy the trip and ask help if you need it. They don’t mind that you’re alone, you shouldn’t either. Have lots of fun shopping! And afterwards too off course 😘
Dude sex shop staff are the NICEST people. It’s okay to be embarrassed. Is it worth doing a bit of research to find a shop with great staff reviews?
Also I think all online shops would have totally anon boxes (even bank statement descriptions?) Unless you mean you think your parents would question you or open your mail.
I would honestly feel more weird with someone! But I’m the opposite of you, I prefer to go alone even to concerts. Try not to worry, every sex shop I’ve been into has really kind and nice staff.
I work at an adult store and single women buying vibrators make up a massive chunk of our sales. I promise that not only will no one judge you, but the employee will probably be at least somewhat stoked about about the sale. And if you have any questions about vibrators they will probably be excited for the chance to share their product knowledge and help you out.
As long as it’s a well established business, they’ll make you feel nothing short of welcome. At least, this has been my experience the times my wife has asked me to pick something up for her.
Adam and eves boxes are completely discreet. And your parents shouldn’t open your packages so you shouldn’t worry about them looking inside of the box. Or you can order toys on Amazon!
If you really don’t want to go, just order from Amazon and have it shipped to a locker.
And, yes, if you do muster the courage to go alone, absolutely nobody will care at all. Whatever assumptions are in your head are not even on the radar of anybody in the store. They all (customers and employees) see dozens/hundreds of single men, single women, and couples of all gender day in and day out.
I have seen vibrators at Target near the condoms/lube and you can go through the self check out. Unless you are looking for something specific that would probably be the easiest.
The interview process for the employees at a sex store focuses almost entirely on making sure they’re chill non judgmental and sex positive people who ALSO use sex toys.
That and they’ve seen a million people buy way crazier shit that you’re gonna buy. Ppl be coming in for sounding devices and gimp masks and nurse costumes and you’re just there for the same thing every woman comes in for once every few years.