I’m 22, GF is 23. We’ve been together for 3 years. I know she’s had a pretty rough childhood, she comes from a home with a good income, but her mom is quite mentally abusive. She broke up with me randomly last year and quit her job, after about a month previous of it seeming like she was a different person that I’d met. After a month she came back extremely apologetic almost like she was a new person again.
It has been amazing since then and we’ve been better than ever, but it feels like it happening again. She told me she thinks she has depression and is “numb” to everything and doesn’t miss me anymore, but doesn’t want to break up. When I ask her about our future she doesn’t give a direct answer, and just laughs it off and says “well I love you at the moment”. Up until about 3 weeks ago she was constantly saying about how she’s excited for our future and wants to get married, now she doesn’t know if we will even be together.
I’m just at a loss because I’m so in love and would do anything, I try every day to see if I can do anything for her mental health, but it’s really starting to play on my mind that she will just leave me again. We’ve gone from seeing each other 4 times a week, to seeing each other only once for one hour. And she doesn’t enjoy intimacy anymore. I’m not sure really what I should do. It’s like she has just suddenly changed her personality. Part of me thinks she has fell out of love but part of me just thinks maybe it’s a wave of depression but it’s just really stressing me out.
TL;DR
– GF thinks she has depression
– doesn’t really see a future with us anymore but doesn’t want to break up
– says she feels “numb” to everything
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Well she needs to get help. if she can’t afford therapy she needs to see her doctor and start looking into medication or look for holistic options to support her mental health.
There is a website called 7 cups and it’s free to use for general “counseling” but it’s not as good as obviously working with a trained specialist.